Long distance relationships don't often work...and if you are supposed to move there in Jan, you need to be talking frankly with him NOW. It's 3 weeks until Jan and it looks like he might not want you there...are you going to wait until you are moved to press him about really wanting you there?
No, in a long distance relationship a couple shouldn't feel obligated to speak daily...if they want to, that's fine but even in local relationships that doesn't happen all the time...you don't want your relationship to turn into a chore (brush my teeth, take out the trash, call my significant other, do the laundry)...y'know?
Talk to him...if he doesn't call and you want to speak to him, then call him. If you're supposed to be living together soon, you'll have daily contact and then some...if he's having second thoughts, you need to know!How do long distance relationships work?
Sorry it turned out as it did, but better to know now, than before you uprooted your life for him. He should have been up front with you as soon as he realized he'd had a change of heart. Take care of you and I hope you can have a lovely holiday season in spite of this.
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Long distance never work at first they call every day and then every tird day and as you can tell every other week. they always have things to do, but don't close your eyes and try to see his patterns just don't cry if he says it over.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and half of that time has been spent apart, usually in different states. We have hopes to get married. Long distance relationships definitely work, but only if it's already pretty well established and if you're both completely committed to one another. And communication is definitely a must... If not every day, then every other day.
its quite simple, its based on trust. people have different ways of expressing themselves, bt in this digital age i gues it doesnt tak too much to send at least a sms to show u care.
well after the move is a great time you can change all your numbers real fast and well real easy to end it right their. but calling everyday is just dumb nothing happens everyday why do i need to call you all the time jsut to ';talk';. thats dumb come see me ill call you on the weekends nothing wrong just accept the fact that i can go days without talking to you and im fine with that. i dont like you less but i dont talk to to many people everyday with out getting paid to do it.
Yes he should call u every day , anyone can make a 2 minute call.I would take this a red flag..
Just what he is doing..... forget it sweetie.
Long distance relationships are hard work. Has he always not called often or is this a recent change do to your committment to move closer to him?
I think frequent contact (more so in a LDR) is an essential part of a relationship. I am an upfront person so I would tell my girlfriend straight out if I didn't want her to move. Sadly, a cowards way might be to ignore you and hope you get the point.
No they shouldn't call daily. Expecting that is being clingy. You boyfriend is probably tired of your clingyness. Back off or eventually he won't care whether he hurts you or not and will tell you to get lost. Calling every single day is way too much, even married couples who are ';separated'; by jobs (military) don't call each other every single day. Lighten up or you won't have a place to move to in January.
He's already letting you know by NOT calling.
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