Anything in this world can be unhealthy. Anything. Face to face relationships can become just as ';unreal'; and ';unhealthy'; as a virtual one. It is truly all in how you look at it. 100% your attitude and how you handle relationships. I now know over 10 couples who started an ';online'; relationship and are married or seriously dating and are incredibly happy. One of them moved from Italy to be with her love. She met him HERE in Answers ... they're getting married in October.
Of course you run risks. That's inherent in this type of situation. People can lie and live a false reality ... but can't they do that in real life as well? How many times have you heard about the guy who has a wife in one state ... and a long time girlfriend in another? Happens all the time. More than anything it is about THE person - not the mechanism.
There are things you can do to protect yourself online. Like use a cam so you can see the person right off and at least know they are who they are in there photos and description. It's much easier to get a feel for someone you can ';see'; and ';talk'; to. You can also plan on meeting right away (very safely of course) so you can find out if you ';click';. I would never carry on a lengthy online relationship and not meet the person relatively quickly because then all these feelings are invested and you may not end up ';meshing'; in person. This also happens all the time.
There are also many positive sides to online dating. It brings people together from all over the world. You never know who your soul mate is going to be ... or who your next really good friend may be. I have a guy friend ... met him online ... he's in Canada ... it started out romantic, but we realized we make much better friends after meeting. So we have been friends for almost 5 years now and are so close! I wouldn't trade that for the world. If I had shut out the notion of ';online relationships'; I'd be missing this amazing person in my life.
You can never tell who your soul mate is going to be. I don't think you should ever shut out possible pathways to that person. You just have to be mature and smart about it. It is possible ... I've seen it time and time again in online relationships. In the busy world we live I think this is going to be the more common dating ritual as time goes on. A computer cannot possibly control your mind or heart ... that is all your choice. The computer again ... is just a mechanism. There are bad people everywhere ... it has nothing to with the ';computer'; itself. Keep your mind and heart open to all possibilities, but play it safe. In the end it's up to you ... a human behind a computer is still a human. You never know which human in this world is going to be the love of your life ... don't shut him out for fear of the unknown. Find a way to make it ';known'; ... and then follow your heart.
Peace ... to you.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Is online relationships / affairs healthy? What do you think?
Awe thanks sweetie. And it was quite sweet of ';Vick'; to conquer. have a wonderful week ... and hang in there! =)
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Its not like They r healthy but its like getting stupid enough having an affair with a person in another part of the world.
Its O.K. to make a loyal friend to whom you can trust upon and open ur heart and make yourself feel lighter!
To each it's own.
We are not in a position to judge how people live their lives. If one chooses to carry on with an online relationship, so long as it is not hurting anyone where is the problem?
The problem is when people hide behind computers and pretend to be anything but who they really are. Then the question is not about intimacy and love--rather why are you hiding behind a computer and pretending to be someone you are not? What is really going on?
Ditto what Christee said.
Well put!
I completely agree with you. I often think that if you have an ';online relationship'; in the romantic sense, it turns more into an affair with an idea, which we is hard enough to deal with in real life. We just call it ';infatuation.'; So yes, we should keep it face to face. However, I find it interesting that you're posting this question on an internet forum...how bout giving me a call sometime???
Totally agree it is not healthy. Online personalities do not reflect the true person.
You know I am glad you asked this question.
The Internet, or as I like to call it, the iNet is a miracle and marvel of our modern age.
It has introduced everyone on our planet today to the possibility of VR (a.k.a. Virtual Reality) and along with what our friends in the field of quantum physics are discovering, the possibility that nothing is real! Or at least as ';material or physical'; as we once thought.
Isn't ';enlightenment'; and ';awakening'; just peachy?
And yes, we will soon take another grand leap into another layer of VR! Do you know about Atlas? http://atlas.ch/
God, oh God! I love this stuff.
I can never be sure about anything!
It lets my imagination run or fly free!
And everyone today is telling me I can create my own reality!
Ha! If I could do that, really do that, don't you just imagine this world, this universe would be a far, far different place?
totally agree, its creepy because you really have way of know whats true about the other person.
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