For instance, it seems pretty popular to state ';If he/she cheats/gains weight/etc etc etc, then it's over!';
Yet, it seems much less popular to say, ';if he/she is there for me during a rough time, cares for me, etc etc etc, then I'll spend the rest of my life with them';
Why is that?
Fleeting thoughts, just looking for input lolWith regard to relationships: Do you spend more time thinking about deal breakers or deal makers?
Also very happy in my marriage and don't think about either of these. However, I think the logic behind it would be pretty simple: One deal break obviously breaks the deal, but why would there be just one deal maker? From your example, if you just chose ';he is there for me during a rough time'; he could otherwise be a jerk, you could be completely not attracted to him physically, he could be a lazy bum, he could not ever want children when you do. Why would you be with this person just because they have one trait you are looking for? Though I don't believe gaining weight is a good ';deal breaker'; term, I can understand cheating. For some people, being cheated on means they will never be able to trust that person again and what is a relationship without trust?With regard to relationships: Do you spend more time thinking about deal breakers or deal makers?
I think some people have negative attitudes and look for reasons to not be happy. That's what that deal maker/deal breaker stuff seems to be about.
It's like they expect perfection in the other person, but want everyone to accept THEM just the way they are. Not fair.
Yeah, good question, I think if you are in a relationship then you help each other, otherwise what is the point.
Deal breakers:
If she beats me like Christie, if she collects debt like Tracy...
I have been burned
Deal makers, I guess. At this point, I don't want it to be over, possibly ever.
I don't think about either. I am happily married and intend to be that way for the rest of my life.
Friday, July 30, 2010
Do long distant relationships work?
Please give me your opion.
he lives in mexico + im from england
and so far its been 2 months, do u think it will last?Do long distant relationships work?
It can last but your not guna be able to resist ppl both of you . .
Believe me ive had 2 long distance relationships . .
I think you should jus make rule that you can go [kiss and stuff] with other ppl while you arent together untill mayb you dont hav 2 hav a long distanrelationship coz other wise it wont work unless you are both the same country at least . .
Having said that if youvebeen together 4 2 months and havnt cheated thats well done (Y) . .
And i rlly advise you to not get too close coz you ill up being hurt . .
Sayin from expierence.
Do long distant relationships work?
Lond distance relationships are only for people who can take it... If you love someone anything is possible however in my experience it worked for 4 months everything was fine, it makes the heart grow founder. But we ran into a problem when he came back, we learnt things about each other that we couldn't stand, and things just didn't work out, because we expected different things... just make sure you both love each other, and know each other realy well, because it's a big commitment, GL
It could last if you both like having a loved one at a distance, somewhere in the mind's eye, but only occasionally there for being with- and for their needs to be met, and your space to be shared. If you crave an everyday partner, stress will build in the relationship until one of you moves - which will have stresses of its own. Good luck - I wish you both the best.
depends on certain things.
have you guys actually met?
if you've met and spent the majority of that time together, and now you're apart... its possible. if you guys have plans to see eachother in the near future then that would be a plus.
long distance relationships are difficult, and both people have to put in the same amount of effort.
Have you met him before in real life? If you haven't then I would say no. Long distance relationships are pretty much a waste of time + money, especially if you're never going to meet each other and you both know it but don't want to admit it. i don't see the point of wasting your time with someone who you think you ';love'; but have never met before in real life. seems pretty sad to me.
I think it depends on your feelings towards each other. You also need to be creative in how you spend time with each other. You could maybe play games online against each other or watch the same movie at the same time and then talk on the phone afterwards so that you are kind of doing it together.
In my opinon, they don't because you or him can get tempted to flirt with other people.
But, sometimes they can. It all depends on him and you. If your both trustworthy? I'm sure you two are though!
Yes long distance relationships do work out....its very hard but if u truly love the person and want the relationship 2 work out ,it will work out.
2 months is immaterial if she really loves u it does not matter she forever love u.
I think you have to have your realitionship.These such things are very wrong.Don't think such things.
very hard.
if neither of you can relocate, then no.
he lives in mexico + im from england
and so far its been 2 months, do u think it will last?Do long distant relationships work?
It can last but your not guna be able to resist ppl both of you . .
Believe me ive had 2 long distance relationships . .
I think you should jus make rule that you can go [kiss and stuff] with other ppl while you arent together untill mayb you dont hav 2 hav a long distanrelationship coz other wise it wont work unless you are both the same country at least . .
Having said that if youvebeen together 4 2 months and havnt cheated thats well done (Y) . .
And i rlly advise you to not get too close coz you ill up being hurt . .
Sayin from expierence.
Do long distant relationships work?
Lond distance relationships are only for people who can take it... If you love someone anything is possible however in my experience it worked for 4 months everything was fine, it makes the heart grow founder. But we ran into a problem when he came back, we learnt things about each other that we couldn't stand, and things just didn't work out, because we expected different things... just make sure you both love each other, and know each other realy well, because it's a big commitment, GL
It could last if you both like having a loved one at a distance, somewhere in the mind's eye, but only occasionally there for being with- and for their needs to be met, and your space to be shared. If you crave an everyday partner, stress will build in the relationship until one of you moves - which will have stresses of its own. Good luck - I wish you both the best.
depends on certain things.
have you guys actually met?
if you've met and spent the majority of that time together, and now you're apart... its possible. if you guys have plans to see eachother in the near future then that would be a plus.
long distance relationships are difficult, and both people have to put in the same amount of effort.
Have you met him before in real life? If you haven't then I would say no. Long distance relationships are pretty much a waste of time + money, especially if you're never going to meet each other and you both know it but don't want to admit it. i don't see the point of wasting your time with someone who you think you ';love'; but have never met before in real life. seems pretty sad to me.
I think it depends on your feelings towards each other. You also need to be creative in how you spend time with each other. You could maybe play games online against each other or watch the same movie at the same time and then talk on the phone afterwards so that you are kind of doing it together.
In my opinon, they don't because you or him can get tempted to flirt with other people.
But, sometimes they can. It all depends on him and you. If your both trustworthy? I'm sure you two are though!
Yes long distance relationships do work out....its very hard but if u truly love the person and want the relationship 2 work out ,it will work out.
2 months is immaterial if she really loves u it does not matter she forever love u.
I think you have to have your realitionship.These such things are very wrong.Don't think such things.
very hard.
if neither of you can relocate, then no.
Why are relationships so freaking hard ?
why can being in a relationship be easy ? why is it so much work? why do men cheat ?Why are relationships so freaking hard ?
Relationships ARE easy. You just have to find the right one and don't try to MAKE him into what you want.
Why men cheat?
鈥?To Fulfill His Biology: You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. I have had this argument/discussion/conversation with dozens of men and women: Are men predestined to cheat? My answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it. Especially after a pitcher and two shots of Jack.
鈥?To Get the Attention: News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the sexual frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.
鈥?To Get Out: I know lots of guys who simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try (';I'm just not happy';), or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.
鈥?To Change Up His Play List: Think about what's on your iPod. You have your favorite songs you play over and over, but every once in a while, you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You don't need to hear it but once every month or so, but still, you appreciate the changeup. Relationships need to be like good iPods lists. You're comfortable with your routine and you like your routine, but it's always nice to change things up. What men really want in relationships (and what I suspect women also want) is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long-term commitment, as long as there are some surprises that make it feel like a new relationship every once in a while. In order to keep the relationship strong, you've got to change the songs every once in a while. That goes for in the bedroom and out.
Cheaters are like Smokers
Cheaters are like smokers, they never ';quit'; , they always have the urge, and they either just don't have one for a while or get better at hiding the habit.Why are relationships so freaking hard ?
You're in the wrong relationship by the sounds of it. When it's right, love doesn't hurt. When two people enter into a relationship, they both nurture the relationship, to keep it healthy, happy, %26amp; growing. If being in a relationship seems like hard work, then it's not for you. Not all men cheat. There's no good reason for those who do, but some will try to blame it all on the woman, to ease their conscience. Men cheat for what they believe is reason to. Nothing can be said by the cheater, that'll condone his dirty deeds. Life is way too short, to be wasted on a man who isn't ready %26amp; mature enough to be in a relationship.
the answer is the same as why women cheat not happy looking for something that they may be lacking in the relationship 80\20 rule people are always looking for that little something that they do not have in their relationship and toss away all the good they have. I have cheated a lot in my life but the current relationship I have been faithful to her and it is hard as hell she puts me through a lot of drama. I do love her and I hurt when she hurts and when she is happy I feel joy but It is a lot of work and that is what you will have to go through if you want a relationship to work if you see a future with that person then this is what you will do.
Because you have to work at it, especially if you're with a person who is very, very different from you. Women cheat too and I truly believe that for most it's because there's a lot lacking in their present relationship. And topher's right, not all men cheat just like not all women cheat.
Why can't being in a relationship be easy?
-Nothing comes easy in life.
Why is it so much work?
-Great things don't just appear overnight, unfortunately
Why do men cheat?
-Men cheat because there inconsiderate a**holes.
haha im 20 and dated 4 girls before (currently single) and have caught 3 in the act of cheating on me so lets not jump to conclusions...
relationships are how we want them to be .... it takes an effort after around 2 years when thatt initial attraction towards each other is gone
thats life
Because sharing your life with someone else is never easy.
well not all guys cheat, you are probably picking the wrong type of guy.
because they think with there f***in D***s . .thats why
DRUGS
Relationships ARE easy. You just have to find the right one and don't try to MAKE him into what you want.
Why men cheat?
鈥?To Fulfill His Biology: You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. I have had this argument/discussion/conversation with dozens of men and women: Are men predestined to cheat? My answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it. Especially after a pitcher and two shots of Jack.
鈥?To Get the Attention: News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the sexual frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.
鈥?To Get Out: I know lots of guys who simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try (';I'm just not happy';), or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.
鈥?To Change Up His Play List: Think about what's on your iPod. You have your favorite songs you play over and over, but every once in a while, you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You don't need to hear it but once every month or so, but still, you appreciate the changeup. Relationships need to be like good iPods lists. You're comfortable with your routine and you like your routine, but it's always nice to change things up. What men really want in relationships (and what I suspect women also want) is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long-term commitment, as long as there are some surprises that make it feel like a new relationship every once in a while. In order to keep the relationship strong, you've got to change the songs every once in a while. That goes for in the bedroom and out.
Cheaters are like Smokers
Cheaters are like smokers, they never ';quit'; , they always have the urge, and they either just don't have one for a while or get better at hiding the habit.Why are relationships so freaking hard ?
You're in the wrong relationship by the sounds of it. When it's right, love doesn't hurt. When two people enter into a relationship, they both nurture the relationship, to keep it healthy, happy, %26amp; growing. If being in a relationship seems like hard work, then it's not for you. Not all men cheat. There's no good reason for those who do, but some will try to blame it all on the woman, to ease their conscience. Men cheat for what they believe is reason to. Nothing can be said by the cheater, that'll condone his dirty deeds. Life is way too short, to be wasted on a man who isn't ready %26amp; mature enough to be in a relationship.
the answer is the same as why women cheat not happy looking for something that they may be lacking in the relationship 80\20 rule people are always looking for that little something that they do not have in their relationship and toss away all the good they have. I have cheated a lot in my life but the current relationship I have been faithful to her and it is hard as hell she puts me through a lot of drama. I do love her and I hurt when she hurts and when she is happy I feel joy but It is a lot of work and that is what you will have to go through if you want a relationship to work if you see a future with that person then this is what you will do.
Because you have to work at it, especially if you're with a person who is very, very different from you. Women cheat too and I truly believe that for most it's because there's a lot lacking in their present relationship. And topher's right, not all men cheat just like not all women cheat.
Why can't being in a relationship be easy?
-Nothing comes easy in life.
Why is it so much work?
-Great things don't just appear overnight, unfortunately
Why do men cheat?
-Men cheat because there inconsiderate a**holes.
haha im 20 and dated 4 girls before (currently single) and have caught 3 in the act of cheating on me so lets not jump to conclusions...
relationships are how we want them to be .... it takes an effort after around 2 years when thatt initial attraction towards each other is gone
thats life
Because sharing your life with someone else is never easy.
well not all guys cheat, you are probably picking the wrong type of guy.
because they think with there f***in D***s . .thats why
DRUGS
Do you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
i do, but i'm too afraid to say it outloud.
im a chick.
and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachmentDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
';and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachment';
Sure, heard that one before plenty of times...lolDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
Yes, absolutey with no emotional baggage!
:-)
thats a normal feeling
yes
yesthis works
im a chick.
and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachmentDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
';and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachment';
Sure, heard that one before plenty of times...lolDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
Yes, absolutey with no emotional baggage!
:-)
thats a normal feeling
yes
yes
Are ';cross-relationships'; taken into account in astrology with regard to how individuals relate?
what i mean is people talk a lot about how sun signs relate. but is ther any consideration given to how say one person's sun sign and another's moon relate?Are ';cross-relationships'; taken into account in astrology with regard to how individuals relate?
I have always wondered that too. I know that if someone shares their Sun with another person's moon then those two will get along perfectly (something which I have experienced myself) yet I don't know if that is also taken in account towards all signs. I have a hard time sometimes getting along with Gemini's which is ironic because my sun is in Aquarius and yet my moon is in Sagittarius, Gemini's polar opposite. Sometimes I find it hard to get along with Leo moons even though my moon is in Sagittarius but it could be because of my Aquarius Sun which is Leo's polar opposite. Although I have to say it actually adds variety and helps ease things a bit for a better connection sharing that type combination.
I think there has to be some sort of connection there. From personal experience at least I have noticed one.Are ';cross-relationships'; taken into account in astrology with regard to how individuals relate?
Yes. It is called Synastry. You can have a synastry chart done at astro.com under ';extended chart selection';. It will show one chart with the other person's chart around the outer rim of the first chart. It will help you see how the planets line up and various aspects.
I have always wondered that too. I know that if someone shares their Sun with another person's moon then those two will get along perfectly (something which I have experienced myself) yet I don't know if that is also taken in account towards all signs. I have a hard time sometimes getting along with Gemini's which is ironic because my sun is in Aquarius and yet my moon is in Sagittarius, Gemini's polar opposite. Sometimes I find it hard to get along with Leo moons even though my moon is in Sagittarius but it could be because of my Aquarius Sun which is Leo's polar opposite. Although I have to say it actually adds variety and helps ease things a bit for a better connection sharing that type combination.
I think there has to be some sort of connection there. From personal experience at least I have noticed one.Are ';cross-relationships'; taken into account in astrology with regard to how individuals relate?
Yes. It is called Synastry. You can have a synastry chart done at astro.com under ';extended chart selection';. It will show one chart with the other person's chart around the outer rim of the first chart. It will help you see how the planets line up and various aspects.
People say relationships are work. How do you know it's more work than it's worth?
The list of good is lengthy, but...the bads have a lot of weight (to me). When is it harder than it should be?People say relationships are work. How do you know it's more work than it's worth?
when you are more miserable than happy!People say relationships are work. How do you know it's more work than it's worth?
This is a great question. Since you already have thought about the list of goods and bads, and say the bads have a lot of weight to you, you need to delve down and ask yourself what effect the bads will have on your vision of yourself and your life goals 5, 10, and 15 years down the line. Some bads are serious deal-killers - for example, does he treat you and your opinions disrespectfully? If you differ with him, does it ALWAYS mean an argument, where he then goes out in a snit or becomes dismissive and nasty? Does he manage his money poorly, so that you are always the one to pick up the financial slack? Do you feel more like his mommy, and less like his partner? Is he always hanging on your ankles and dragging you down, or does he help to make you feel better and to be a better person in everything you do?
And last but not least - can you talk about your goals with him and does he share you goals and listen to you seriously? Does he do what he says he will do, when you have such talks, or is it just like talking to a wall?
I'm guessing that if you are asking this question, your relationship will flunk this test. Every r'ship has its ups and downs, but these elements are key in maintaining a positive trajectory for the r'ship.
That is a very subjective question.
Is it work to do something for someone you love or is it a pleasure?
Working on a relationship is an ongoing process that will never end. Every relationship will have rough patches. Those patches require a bit more effort than when things are going well. Just like any job some days are harder than others. Is your job worth the effort you put into it.
When it comes to employees and jobs I have an old saying I like to use --- The day you are paid what you are worth on a job ---- you are no longer worth it. In other words a good employee always puts forth a little bit extra. In a good relationship you should both put forth more than the required minimum. It is one thing to get along together it is another to Truly enjoy every minute you are together.
If you are a selfish individual, a relationship may seem like way too much work. On the other hand if you are a very giving person, you may be also an enabler and letting the other half of your relationship be lazy.
If you think it is harder than it should be it is time to seek counseling, because a relationship shouldn't seem like a chore but a pleasure. Kind of like playing a sport, it takes effort but is fun.
The same way you know that all the work you put into your job (that you love), your wardrobe, car, home, etc. is worth it.
Because not only ';knowing'; it's worth it, but by obtaining the successful (and desired) outcome is what makes you satisfied, content and happy.
Be it a tricked out car, beautifully decorated house, or a wonderful relationship.
You know it's more work than it's worth when you picture yourself without them in your life and you feel total relief. Until then, work at it. Life is hard. Relationships are hard. Love can be painful.
Loneliness and regrets are more painful, though. Stick with it kid until you ';just know'; it's not for you.
When you feel like you are working by yourself then it is probably time to really evaluate the relationship. If you are both willing to put in the work together then go for it, but if it is always one sided then you have to really figure out where you stand.
actually make that list, sit down and list pros and cons
then decide which is the stronger side, the point where you are doing more harm than good for eachother is the point when it should end
if you have chidlren,you owe it to the children to MAKE it work.
nobody seems to care what they do to people anymore,but it is wrong to hurt chidren just because you dont want to be an adult
I think its harder than it should be if you guys are getting frustrated with each other every time you see each other. You guys need to be happy with one another at SOME POINT
when you have trouble paying the rent or whatever then its too hard !!
when you are more miserable than happy!People say relationships are work. How do you know it's more work than it's worth?
This is a great question. Since you already have thought about the list of goods and bads, and say the bads have a lot of weight to you, you need to delve down and ask yourself what effect the bads will have on your vision of yourself and your life goals 5, 10, and 15 years down the line. Some bads are serious deal-killers - for example, does he treat you and your opinions disrespectfully? If you differ with him, does it ALWAYS mean an argument, where he then goes out in a snit or becomes dismissive and nasty? Does he manage his money poorly, so that you are always the one to pick up the financial slack? Do you feel more like his mommy, and less like his partner? Is he always hanging on your ankles and dragging you down, or does he help to make you feel better and to be a better person in everything you do?
And last but not least - can you talk about your goals with him and does he share you goals and listen to you seriously? Does he do what he says he will do, when you have such talks, or is it just like talking to a wall?
I'm guessing that if you are asking this question, your relationship will flunk this test. Every r'ship has its ups and downs, but these elements are key in maintaining a positive trajectory for the r'ship.
That is a very subjective question.
Is it work to do something for someone you love or is it a pleasure?
Working on a relationship is an ongoing process that will never end. Every relationship will have rough patches. Those patches require a bit more effort than when things are going well. Just like any job some days are harder than others. Is your job worth the effort you put into it.
When it comes to employees and jobs I have an old saying I like to use --- The day you are paid what you are worth on a job ---- you are no longer worth it. In other words a good employee always puts forth a little bit extra. In a good relationship you should both put forth more than the required minimum. It is one thing to get along together it is another to Truly enjoy every minute you are together.
If you are a selfish individual, a relationship may seem like way too much work. On the other hand if you are a very giving person, you may be also an enabler and letting the other half of your relationship be lazy.
If you think it is harder than it should be it is time to seek counseling, because a relationship shouldn't seem like a chore but a pleasure. Kind of like playing a sport, it takes effort but is fun.
The same way you know that all the work you put into your job (that you love), your wardrobe, car, home, etc. is worth it.
Because not only ';knowing'; it's worth it, but by obtaining the successful (and desired) outcome is what makes you satisfied, content and happy.
Be it a tricked out car, beautifully decorated house, or a wonderful relationship.
You know it's more work than it's worth when you picture yourself without them in your life and you feel total relief. Until then, work at it. Life is hard. Relationships are hard. Love can be painful.
Loneliness and regrets are more painful, though. Stick with it kid until you ';just know'; it's not for you.
When you feel like you are working by yourself then it is probably time to really evaluate the relationship. If you are both willing to put in the work together then go for it, but if it is always one sided then you have to really figure out where you stand.
actually make that list, sit down and list pros and cons
then decide which is the stronger side, the point where you are doing more harm than good for eachother is the point when it should end
if you have chidlren,you owe it to the children to MAKE it work.
nobody seems to care what they do to people anymore,but it is wrong to hurt chidren just because you dont want to be an adult
I think its harder than it should be if you guys are getting frustrated with each other every time you see each other. You guys need to be happy with one another at SOME POINT
when you have trouble paying the rent or whatever then its too hard !!
Are romantice relationships usually the one place that 'take-no-crap' people put up with crap?
Yes, especially men.
We all take some crap at work %26amp; with family occasionally, but so many people seem to slate so much more tolerance for crap we'd never tolerate from even a friend or family member (but maybe a boss).
Even very confident, assertive, and powerful men often let their woman talk to him like he's a child.
What's up with all this?Are romantice relationships usually the one place that 'take-no-crap' people put up with crap?
Very interesting and very true. Its one of those strange things about human nature that's hard to understand. What is it about romance that makes people so weak? A guy with the courage to walk into a burning building and save someone can still be terrified to stand up to a woman.
This is one question I don't have an answer for. FIRST!Are romantice relationships usually the one place that 'take-no-crap' people put up with crap?
Ehhh... I dunno about that. My wife and I base everything on mutual respect.
*Edit*
Honestly though, my wife is exceptional in every way.
in some cases yes, I know at my work, the more dignified woman and smarter woman that i work with all treat my boss like hes a kid and the younger generation trys to snucker up to him like he is gold or something, I on the other hand, I hold my head up high, and go about my own business, and talk to my boss with a yes sir or no sir anything you say sir, And iam singles out from the rest of the group because i have a great attitude when it comes to bosses, if you are my boss I Would treat you like you want to be treated, like a human being , and i would treat you with a yes sir or no sir, even if i was with you for 20 years, i would still answer you that way, because thats me, And the the other woman can go back to their lonely houses and sit on it, because i will be the one who will be dancing on the floor at night time,
Usually it happens over a long period of time so it creeps in and one day you wake up and you are an infant (or talking to your husband like he is one).
Both sides take crap is best and works out forever I think. Adjusting and never ever disrespecting the other..... but at the same time arguing or fighting with no thoughts of divorce or showing off what either is capable off? It works my friend it works.... worldwide it works and will work .......
wtf are you talking about
Honey if your girlfriend talks to you like you're a child and you find yourself constantly putting up with crap, then your relationship isn't healthy and you need to get out of it.
If your girlfriend talks to you like a child because you are too dumb to understand anything if you're spoken to like a regular adult, then she needs to dump your @ss because she's supposed to be a girlfriend, not a mommy.
Although I'm sure the latter wouldn't apply to you. :)
I agree. In general people would rather stop and hold a door for a stranger or bring treats to our coworkers than do these common courtesies for their spouse of loved one.
We all take some crap at work %26amp; with family occasionally, but so many people seem to slate so much more tolerance for crap we'd never tolerate from even a friend or family member (but maybe a boss).
Even very confident, assertive, and powerful men often let their woman talk to him like he's a child.
What's up with all this?Are romantice relationships usually the one place that 'take-no-crap' people put up with crap?
Very interesting and very true. Its one of those strange things about human nature that's hard to understand. What is it about romance that makes people so weak? A guy with the courage to walk into a burning building and save someone can still be terrified to stand up to a woman.
This is one question I don't have an answer for. FIRST!Are romantice relationships usually the one place that 'take-no-crap' people put up with crap?
Ehhh... I dunno about that. My wife and I base everything on mutual respect.
*Edit*
Honestly though, my wife is exceptional in every way.
in some cases yes, I know at my work, the more dignified woman and smarter woman that i work with all treat my boss like hes a kid and the younger generation trys to snucker up to him like he is gold or something, I on the other hand, I hold my head up high, and go about my own business, and talk to my boss with a yes sir or no sir anything you say sir, And iam singles out from the rest of the group because i have a great attitude when it comes to bosses, if you are my boss I Would treat you like you want to be treated, like a human being , and i would treat you with a yes sir or no sir, even if i was with you for 20 years, i would still answer you that way, because thats me, And the the other woman can go back to their lonely houses and sit on it, because i will be the one who will be dancing on the floor at night time,
Usually it happens over a long period of time so it creeps in and one day you wake up and you are an infant (or talking to your husband like he is one).
Both sides take crap is best and works out forever I think. Adjusting and never ever disrespecting the other..... but at the same time arguing or fighting with no thoughts of divorce or showing off what either is capable off? It works my friend it works.... worldwide it works and will work .......
wtf are you talking about
Honey if your girlfriend talks to you like you're a child and you find yourself constantly putting up with crap, then your relationship isn't healthy and you need to get out of it.
If your girlfriend talks to you like a child because you are too dumb to understand anything if you're spoken to like a regular adult, then she needs to dump your @ss because she's supposed to be a girlfriend, not a mommy.
Although I'm sure the latter wouldn't apply to you. :)
I agree. In general people would rather stop and hold a door for a stranger or bring treats to our coworkers than do these common courtesies for their spouse of loved one.
With regard to relationships: Do you spend more time thinking about deal breakers or deal makers?
For instance, it seems pretty popular to state ';If he/she cheats/gains weight/etc etc etc, then it's over!';
Yet, it seems much less popular to say, ';if he/she is there for me during a rough time, cares for me, etc etc etc, then I'll spend the rest of my life with them';
Why is that?
Fleeting thoughts, just looking for input lolWith regard to relationships: Do you spend more time thinking about deal breakers or deal makers?
Also very happy in my marriage and don't think about either of these. However, I think the logic behind it would be pretty simple: One deal break obviously breaks the deal, but why would there be just one deal maker? From your example, if you just chose ';he is there for me during a rough time'; he could otherwise be a jerk, you could be completely not attracted to him physically, he could be a lazy bum, he could not ever want children when you do. Why would you be with this person just because they have one trait you are looking for? Though I don't believe gaining weight is a good ';deal breaker'; term, I can understand cheating. For some people, being cheated on means they will never be able to trust that person again and what is a relationship without trust?With regard to relationships: Do you spend more time thinking about deal breakers or deal makers?
I think some people have negative attitudes and look for reasons to not be happy. That's what that deal maker/deal breaker stuff seems to be about.
It's like they expect perfection in the other person, but want everyone to accept THEM just the way they are. Not fair.
Yeah, good question, I think if you are in a relationship then you help each other, otherwise what is the point.
Deal breakers:
If she beats me like Christie, if she collects debt like Tracy...
I have been burned
Deal makers, I guess. At this point, I don't want it to be over, possibly ever.
I don't think about either. I am happily married and intend to be that way for the rest of my life.
Yet, it seems much less popular to say, ';if he/she is there for me during a rough time, cares for me, etc etc etc, then I'll spend the rest of my life with them';
Why is that?
Fleeting thoughts, just looking for input lolWith regard to relationships: Do you spend more time thinking about deal breakers or deal makers?
Also very happy in my marriage and don't think about either of these. However, I think the logic behind it would be pretty simple: One deal break obviously breaks the deal, but why would there be just one deal maker? From your example, if you just chose ';he is there for me during a rough time'; he could otherwise be a jerk, you could be completely not attracted to him physically, he could be a lazy bum, he could not ever want children when you do. Why would you be with this person just because they have one trait you are looking for? Though I don't believe gaining weight is a good ';deal breaker'; term, I can understand cheating. For some people, being cheated on means they will never be able to trust that person again and what is a relationship without trust?With regard to relationships: Do you spend more time thinking about deal breakers or deal makers?
I think some people have negative attitudes and look for reasons to not be happy. That's what that deal maker/deal breaker stuff seems to be about.
It's like they expect perfection in the other person, but want everyone to accept THEM just the way they are. Not fair.
Yeah, good question, I think if you are in a relationship then you help each other, otherwise what is the point.
Deal breakers:
If she beats me like Christie, if she collects debt like Tracy...
I have been burned
Deal makers, I guess. At this point, I don't want it to be over, possibly ever.
I don't think about either. I am happily married and intend to be that way for the rest of my life.
Do long distant relationships work?
Please give me your opion.
he lives in mexico + im from england
and so far its been 2 months, do u think it will last?Do long distant relationships work?
It can last but your not guna be able to resist ppl both of you . .
Believe me ive had 2 long distance relationships . .
I think you should jus make rule that you can go [kiss and stuff] with other ppl while you arent together untill mayb you dont hav 2 hav a long distanrelationship coz other wise it wont work unless you are both the same country at least . .
Having said that if youvebeen together 4 2 months and havnt cheated thats well done (Y) . .
And i rlly advise you to not get too close coz you ill up being hurt . .
Sayin from expierence.
Do long distant relationships work?
Lond distance relationships are only for people who can take it... If you love someone anything is possible however in my experience it worked for 4 months everything was fine, it makes the heart grow founder. But we ran into a problem when he came back, we learnt things about each other that we couldn't stand, and things just didn't work out, because we expected different things... just make sure you both love each other, and know each other realy well, because it's a big commitment, GL
It could last if you both like having a loved one at a distance, somewhere in the mind's eye, but only occasionally there for being with- and for their needs to be met, and your space to be shared. If you crave an everyday partner, stress will build in the relationship until one of you moves - which will have stresses of its own. Good luck - I wish you both the best.
depends on certain things.
have you guys actually met?
if you've met and spent the majority of that time together, and now you're apart... its possible. if you guys have plans to see eachother in the near future then that would be a plus.
long distance relationships are difficult, and both people have to put in the same amount of effort.
Have you met him before in real life? If you haven't then I would say no. Long distance relationships are pretty much a waste of time + money, especially if you're never going to meet each other and you both know it but don't want to admit it. i don't see the point of wasting your time with someone who you think you ';love'; but have never met before in real life. seems pretty sad to me.
I think it depends on your feelings towards each other. You also need to be creative in how you spend time with each other. You could maybe play games online against each other or watch the same movie at the same time and then talk on the phone afterwards so that you are kind of doing it together.
In my opinon, they don't because you or him can get tempted to flirt with other people.
But, sometimes they can. It all depends on him and you. If your both trustworthy? I'm sure you two are though!
Yes long distance relationships do work out....its very hard but if u truly love the person and want the relationship 2 work out ,it will work out.
2 months is immaterial if she really loves u it does not matter she forever love u.
I think you have to have your realitionship.These such things are very wrong.Don't think such things.
very hard.
if neither of you can relocate, then no.
he lives in mexico + im from england
and so far its been 2 months, do u think it will last?Do long distant relationships work?
It can last but your not guna be able to resist ppl both of you . .
Believe me ive had 2 long distance relationships . .
I think you should jus make rule that you can go [kiss and stuff] with other ppl while you arent together untill mayb you dont hav 2 hav a long distanrelationship coz other wise it wont work unless you are both the same country at least . .
Having said that if youvebeen together 4 2 months and havnt cheated thats well done (Y) . .
And i rlly advise you to not get too close coz you ill up being hurt . .
Sayin from expierence.
Do long distant relationships work?
Lond distance relationships are only for people who can take it... If you love someone anything is possible however in my experience it worked for 4 months everything was fine, it makes the heart grow founder. But we ran into a problem when he came back, we learnt things about each other that we couldn't stand, and things just didn't work out, because we expected different things... just make sure you both love each other, and know each other realy well, because it's a big commitment, GL
It could last if you both like having a loved one at a distance, somewhere in the mind's eye, but only occasionally there for being with- and for their needs to be met, and your space to be shared. If you crave an everyday partner, stress will build in the relationship until one of you moves - which will have stresses of its own. Good luck - I wish you both the best.
depends on certain things.
have you guys actually met?
if you've met and spent the majority of that time together, and now you're apart... its possible. if you guys have plans to see eachother in the near future then that would be a plus.
long distance relationships are difficult, and both people have to put in the same amount of effort.
Have you met him before in real life? If you haven't then I would say no. Long distance relationships are pretty much a waste of time + money, especially if you're never going to meet each other and you both know it but don't want to admit it. i don't see the point of wasting your time with someone who you think you ';love'; but have never met before in real life. seems pretty sad to me.
I think it depends on your feelings towards each other. You also need to be creative in how you spend time with each other. You could maybe play games online against each other or watch the same movie at the same time and then talk on the phone afterwards so that you are kind of doing it together.
In my opinon, they don't because you or him can get tempted to flirt with other people.
But, sometimes they can. It all depends on him and you. If your both trustworthy? I'm sure you two are though!
Yes long distance relationships do work out....its very hard but if u truly love the person and want the relationship 2 work out ,it will work out.
2 months is immaterial if she really loves u it does not matter she forever love u.
I think you have to have your realitionship.These such things are very wrong.Don't think such things.
very hard.
if neither of you can relocate, then no.
Why are relationships so freaking hard ?
why can being in a relationship be easy ? why is it so much work? why do men cheat ?Why are relationships so freaking hard ?
Relationships ARE easy. You just have to find the right one and don't try to MAKE him into what you want.
Why men cheat?
鈥?To Fulfill His Biology: You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. I have had this argument/discussion/conversation with dozens of men and women: Are men predestined to cheat? My answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it. Especially after a pitcher and two shots of Jack.
鈥?To Get the Attention: News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the sexual frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.
鈥?To Get Out: I know lots of guys who simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try (';I'm just not happy';), or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.
鈥?To Change Up His Play List: Think about what's on your iPod. You have your favorite songs you play over and over, but every once in a while, you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You don't need to hear it but once every month or so, but still, you appreciate the changeup. Relationships need to be like good iPods lists. You're comfortable with your routine and you like your routine, but it's always nice to change things up. What men really want in relationships (and what I suspect women also want) is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long-term commitment, as long as there are some surprises that make it feel like a new relationship every once in a while. In order to keep the relationship strong, you've got to change the songs every once in a while. That goes for in the bedroom and out.
Cheaters are like Smokers
Cheaters are like smokers, they never ';quit'; , they always have the urge, and they either just don't have one for a while or get better at hiding the habit.Why are relationships so freaking hard ?
You're in the wrong relationship by the sounds of it. When it's right, love doesn't hurt. When two people enter into a relationship, they both nurture the relationship, to keep it healthy, happy, %26amp; growing. If being in a relationship seems like hard work, then it's not for you. Not all men cheat. There's no good reason for those who do, but some will try to blame it all on the woman, to ease their conscience. Men cheat for what they believe is reason to. Nothing can be said by the cheater, that'll condone his dirty deeds. Life is way too short, to be wasted on a man who isn't ready %26amp; mature enough to be in a relationship.
the answer is the same as why women cheat not happy looking for something that they may be lacking in the relationship 80\20 rule people are always looking for that little something that they do not have in their relationship and toss away all the good they have. I have cheated a lot in my life but the current relationship I have been faithful to her and it is hard as hell she puts me through a lot of drama. I do love her and I hurt when she hurts and when she is happy I feel joy but It is a lot of work and that is what you will have to go through if you want a relationship to work if you see a future with that person then this is what you will do.
Because you have to work at it, especially if you're with a person who is very, very different from you. Women cheat too and I truly believe that for most it's because there's a lot lacking in their present relationship. And topher's right, not all men cheat just like not all women cheat.
Why can't being in a relationship be easy?
-Nothing comes easy in life.
Why is it so much work?
-Great things don't just appear overnight, unfortunately
Why do men cheat?
-Men cheat because there inconsiderate a**holes.
haha im 20 and dated 4 girls before (currently single) and have caught 3 in the act of cheating on me so lets not jump to conclusions...
relationships are how we want them to be .... it takes an effort after around 2 years when thatt initial attraction towards each other is gone
thats life
Because sharing your life with someone else is never easy.
well not all guys cheat, you are probably picking the wrong type of guy.
because they think with there f***in D***s . .thats why
DRUGSthis works
Relationships ARE easy. You just have to find the right one and don't try to MAKE him into what you want.
Why men cheat?
鈥?To Fulfill His Biology: You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. I have had this argument/discussion/conversation with dozens of men and women: Are men predestined to cheat? My answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it. Especially after a pitcher and two shots of Jack.
鈥?To Get the Attention: News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the sexual frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.
鈥?To Get Out: I know lots of guys who simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try (';I'm just not happy';), or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.
鈥?To Change Up His Play List: Think about what's on your iPod. You have your favorite songs you play over and over, but every once in a while, you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You don't need to hear it but once every month or so, but still, you appreciate the changeup. Relationships need to be like good iPods lists. You're comfortable with your routine and you like your routine, but it's always nice to change things up. What men really want in relationships (and what I suspect women also want) is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long-term commitment, as long as there are some surprises that make it feel like a new relationship every once in a while. In order to keep the relationship strong, you've got to change the songs every once in a while. That goes for in the bedroom and out.
Cheaters are like Smokers
Cheaters are like smokers, they never ';quit'; , they always have the urge, and they either just don't have one for a while or get better at hiding the habit.Why are relationships so freaking hard ?
You're in the wrong relationship by the sounds of it. When it's right, love doesn't hurt. When two people enter into a relationship, they both nurture the relationship, to keep it healthy, happy, %26amp; growing. If being in a relationship seems like hard work, then it's not for you. Not all men cheat. There's no good reason for those who do, but some will try to blame it all on the woman, to ease their conscience. Men cheat for what they believe is reason to. Nothing can be said by the cheater, that'll condone his dirty deeds. Life is way too short, to be wasted on a man who isn't ready %26amp; mature enough to be in a relationship.
the answer is the same as why women cheat not happy looking for something that they may be lacking in the relationship 80\20 rule people are always looking for that little something that they do not have in their relationship and toss away all the good they have. I have cheated a lot in my life but the current relationship I have been faithful to her and it is hard as hell she puts me through a lot of drama. I do love her and I hurt when she hurts and when she is happy I feel joy but It is a lot of work and that is what you will have to go through if you want a relationship to work if you see a future with that person then this is what you will do.
Because you have to work at it, especially if you're with a person who is very, very different from you. Women cheat too and I truly believe that for most it's because there's a lot lacking in their present relationship. And topher's right, not all men cheat just like not all women cheat.
Why can't being in a relationship be easy?
-Nothing comes easy in life.
Why is it so much work?
-Great things don't just appear overnight, unfortunately
Why do men cheat?
-Men cheat because there inconsiderate a**holes.
haha im 20 and dated 4 girls before (currently single) and have caught 3 in the act of cheating on me so lets not jump to conclusions...
relationships are how we want them to be .... it takes an effort after around 2 years when thatt initial attraction towards each other is gone
thats life
Because sharing your life with someone else is never easy.
well not all guys cheat, you are probably picking the wrong type of guy.
because they think with there f***in D***s . .thats why
DRUGS
Do you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
i do, but i'm too afraid to say it outloud.
im a chick.
and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachmentDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
';and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachment';
Sure, heard that one before plenty of times...lolDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
Yes, absolutey with no emotional baggage!
:-)
thats a normal feeling
yes
yes
im a chick.
and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachmentDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
';and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachment';
Sure, heard that one before plenty of times...lolDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
Yes, absolutey with no emotional baggage!
:-)
thats a normal feeling
yes
yes
Are ';cross-relationships'; taken into account in astrology with regard to how individuals relate?
what i mean is people talk a lot about how sun signs relate. but is ther any consideration given to how say one person's sun sign and another's moon relate?Are ';cross-relationships'; taken into account in astrology with regard to how individuals relate?
I have always wondered that too. I know that if someone shares their Sun with another person's moon then those two will get along perfectly (something which I have experienced myself) yet I don't know if that is also taken in account towards all signs. I have a hard time sometimes getting along with Gemini's which is ironic because my sun is in Aquarius and yet my moon is in Sagittarius, Gemini's polar opposite. Sometimes I find it hard to get along with Leo moons even though my moon is in Sagittarius but it could be because of my Aquarius Sun which is Leo's polar opposite. Although I have to say it actually adds variety and helps ease things a bit for a better connection sharing that type combination.
I think there has to be some sort of connection there. From personal experience at least I have noticed one.Are ';cross-relationships'; taken into account in astrology with regard to how individuals relate?
Yes. It is called Synastry. You can have a synastry chart done at astro.com under ';extended chart selection';. It will show one chart with the other person's chart around the outer rim of the first chart. It will help you see how the planets line up and various aspects.
I have always wondered that too. I know that if someone shares their Sun with another person's moon then those two will get along perfectly (something which I have experienced myself) yet I don't know if that is also taken in account towards all signs. I have a hard time sometimes getting along with Gemini's which is ironic because my sun is in Aquarius and yet my moon is in Sagittarius, Gemini's polar opposite. Sometimes I find it hard to get along with Leo moons even though my moon is in Sagittarius but it could be because of my Aquarius Sun which is Leo's polar opposite. Although I have to say it actually adds variety and helps ease things a bit for a better connection sharing that type combination.
I think there has to be some sort of connection there. From personal experience at least I have noticed one.Are ';cross-relationships'; taken into account in astrology with regard to how individuals relate?
Yes. It is called Synastry. You can have a synastry chart done at astro.com under ';extended chart selection';. It will show one chart with the other person's chart around the outer rim of the first chart. It will help you see how the planets line up and various aspects.
People say relationships are work. How do you know it's more work than it's worth?
The list of good is lengthy, but...the bads have a lot of weight (to me). When is it harder than it should be?People say relationships are work. How do you know it's more work than it's worth?
when you are more miserable than happy!People say relationships are work. How do you know it's more work than it's worth?
This is a great question. Since you already have thought about the list of goods and bads, and say the bads have a lot of weight to you, you need to delve down and ask yourself what effect the bads will have on your vision of yourself and your life goals 5, 10, and 15 years down the line. Some bads are serious deal-killers - for example, does he treat you and your opinions disrespectfully? If you differ with him, does it ALWAYS mean an argument, where he then goes out in a snit or becomes dismissive and nasty? Does he manage his money poorly, so that you are always the one to pick up the financial slack? Do you feel more like his mommy, and less like his partner? Is he always hanging on your ankles and dragging you down, or does he help to make you feel better and to be a better person in everything you do?
And last but not least - can you talk about your goals with him and does he share you goals and listen to you seriously? Does he do what he says he will do, when you have such talks, or is it just like talking to a wall?
I'm guessing that if you are asking this question, your relationship will flunk this test. Every r'ship has its ups and downs, but these elements are key in maintaining a positive trajectory for the r'ship.
That is a very subjective question.
Is it work to do something for someone you love or is it a pleasure?
Working on a relationship is an ongoing process that will never end. Every relationship will have rough patches. Those patches require a bit more effort than when things are going well. Just like any job some days are harder than others. Is your job worth the effort you put into it.
When it comes to employees and jobs I have an old saying I like to use --- The day you are paid what you are worth on a job ---- you are no longer worth it. In other words a good employee always puts forth a little bit extra. In a good relationship you should both put forth more than the required minimum. It is one thing to get along together it is another to Truly enjoy every minute you are together.
If you are a selfish individual, a relationship may seem like way too much work. On the other hand if you are a very giving person, you may be also an enabler and letting the other half of your relationship be lazy.
If you think it is harder than it should be it is time to seek counseling, because a relationship shouldn't seem like a chore but a pleasure. Kind of like playing a sport, it takes effort but is fun.
The same way you know that all the work you put into your job (that you love), your wardrobe, car, home, etc. is worth it.
Because not only ';knowing'; it's worth it, but by obtaining the successful (and desired) outcome is what makes you satisfied, content and happy.
Be it a tricked out car, beautifully decorated house, or a wonderful relationship.
You know it's more work than it's worth when you picture yourself without them in your life and you feel total relief. Until then, work at it. Life is hard. Relationships are hard. Love can be painful.
Loneliness and regrets are more painful, though. Stick with it kid until you ';just know'; it's not for you.
When you feel like you are working by yourself then it is probably time to really evaluate the relationship. If you are both willing to put in the work together then go for it, but if it is always one sided then you have to really figure out where you stand.
actually make that list, sit down and list pros and cons
then decide which is the stronger side, the point where you are doing more harm than good for eachother is the point when it should end
if you have chidlren,you owe it to the children to MAKE it work.
nobody seems to care what they do to people anymore,but it is wrong to hurt chidren just because you dont want to be an adult
I think its harder than it should be if you guys are getting frustrated with each other every time you see each other. You guys need to be happy with one another at SOME POINT
when you have trouble paying the rent or whatever then its too hard !!
when you are more miserable than happy!People say relationships are work. How do you know it's more work than it's worth?
This is a great question. Since you already have thought about the list of goods and bads, and say the bads have a lot of weight to you, you need to delve down and ask yourself what effect the bads will have on your vision of yourself and your life goals 5, 10, and 15 years down the line. Some bads are serious deal-killers - for example, does he treat you and your opinions disrespectfully? If you differ with him, does it ALWAYS mean an argument, where he then goes out in a snit or becomes dismissive and nasty? Does he manage his money poorly, so that you are always the one to pick up the financial slack? Do you feel more like his mommy, and less like his partner? Is he always hanging on your ankles and dragging you down, or does he help to make you feel better and to be a better person in everything you do?
And last but not least - can you talk about your goals with him and does he share you goals and listen to you seriously? Does he do what he says he will do, when you have such talks, or is it just like talking to a wall?
I'm guessing that if you are asking this question, your relationship will flunk this test. Every r'ship has its ups and downs, but these elements are key in maintaining a positive trajectory for the r'ship.
That is a very subjective question.
Is it work to do something for someone you love or is it a pleasure?
Working on a relationship is an ongoing process that will never end. Every relationship will have rough patches. Those patches require a bit more effort than when things are going well. Just like any job some days are harder than others. Is your job worth the effort you put into it.
When it comes to employees and jobs I have an old saying I like to use --- The day you are paid what you are worth on a job ---- you are no longer worth it. In other words a good employee always puts forth a little bit extra. In a good relationship you should both put forth more than the required minimum. It is one thing to get along together it is another to Truly enjoy every minute you are together.
If you are a selfish individual, a relationship may seem like way too much work. On the other hand if you are a very giving person, you may be also an enabler and letting the other half of your relationship be lazy.
If you think it is harder than it should be it is time to seek counseling, because a relationship shouldn't seem like a chore but a pleasure. Kind of like playing a sport, it takes effort but is fun.
The same way you know that all the work you put into your job (that you love), your wardrobe, car, home, etc. is worth it.
Because not only ';knowing'; it's worth it, but by obtaining the successful (and desired) outcome is what makes you satisfied, content and happy.
Be it a tricked out car, beautifully decorated house, or a wonderful relationship.
You know it's more work than it's worth when you picture yourself without them in your life and you feel total relief. Until then, work at it. Life is hard. Relationships are hard. Love can be painful.
Loneliness and regrets are more painful, though. Stick with it kid until you ';just know'; it's not for you.
When you feel like you are working by yourself then it is probably time to really evaluate the relationship. If you are both willing to put in the work together then go for it, but if it is always one sided then you have to really figure out where you stand.
actually make that list, sit down and list pros and cons
then decide which is the stronger side, the point where you are doing more harm than good for eachother is the point when it should end
if you have chidlren,you owe it to the children to MAKE it work.
nobody seems to care what they do to people anymore,but it is wrong to hurt chidren just because you dont want to be an adult
I think its harder than it should be if you guys are getting frustrated with each other every time you see each other. You guys need to be happy with one another at SOME POINT
when you have trouble paying the rent or whatever then its too hard !!
Are romantice relationships usually the one place that 'take-no-crap' people put up with crap?
Yes, especially men.
We all take some crap at work %26amp; with family occasionally, but so many people seem to slate so much more tolerance for crap we'd never tolerate from even a friend or family member (but maybe a boss).
Even very confident, assertive, and powerful men often let their woman talk to him like he's a child.
What's up with all this?Are romantice relationships usually the one place that 'take-no-crap' people put up with crap?
Very interesting and very true. Its one of those strange things about human nature that's hard to understand. What is it about romance that makes people so weak? A guy with the courage to walk into a burning building and save someone can still be terrified to stand up to a woman.
This is one question I don't have an answer for. FIRST!Are romantice relationships usually the one place that 'take-no-crap' people put up with crap?
Ehhh... I dunno about that. My wife and I base everything on mutual respect.
*Edit*
Honestly though, my wife is exceptional in every way.
in some cases yes, I know at my work, the more dignified woman and smarter woman that i work with all treat my boss like hes a kid and the younger generation trys to snucker up to him like he is gold or something, I on the other hand, I hold my head up high, and go about my own business, and talk to my boss with a yes sir or no sir anything you say sir, And iam singles out from the rest of the group because i have a great attitude when it comes to bosses, if you are my boss I Would treat you like you want to be treated, like a human being , and i would treat you with a yes sir or no sir, even if i was with you for 20 years, i would still answer you that way, because thats me, And the the other woman can go back to their lonely houses and sit on it, because i will be the one who will be dancing on the floor at night time,
Usually it happens over a long period of time so it creeps in and one day you wake up and you are an infant (or talking to your husband like he is one).
Both sides take crap is best and works out forever I think. Adjusting and never ever disrespecting the other..... but at the same time arguing or fighting with no thoughts of divorce or showing off what either is capable off? It works my friend it works.... worldwide it works and will work .......
wtf are you talking about
Honey if your girlfriend talks to you like you're a child and you find yourself constantly putting up with crap, then your relationship isn't healthy and you need to get out of it.
If your girlfriend talks to you like a child because you are too dumb to understand anything if you're spoken to like a regular adult, then she needs to dump your @ss because she's supposed to be a girlfriend, not a mommy.
Although I'm sure the latter wouldn't apply to you. :)
I agree. In general people would rather stop and hold a door for a stranger or bring treats to our coworkers than do these common courtesies for their spouse of loved one.
We all take some crap at work %26amp; with family occasionally, but so many people seem to slate so much more tolerance for crap we'd never tolerate from even a friend or family member (but maybe a boss).
Even very confident, assertive, and powerful men often let their woman talk to him like he's a child.
What's up with all this?Are romantice relationships usually the one place that 'take-no-crap' people put up with crap?
Very interesting and very true. Its one of those strange things about human nature that's hard to understand. What is it about romance that makes people so weak? A guy with the courage to walk into a burning building and save someone can still be terrified to stand up to a woman.
This is one question I don't have an answer for. FIRST!Are romantice relationships usually the one place that 'take-no-crap' people put up with crap?
Ehhh... I dunno about that. My wife and I base everything on mutual respect.
*Edit*
Honestly though, my wife is exceptional in every way.
in some cases yes, I know at my work, the more dignified woman and smarter woman that i work with all treat my boss like hes a kid and the younger generation trys to snucker up to him like he is gold or something, I on the other hand, I hold my head up high, and go about my own business, and talk to my boss with a yes sir or no sir anything you say sir, And iam singles out from the rest of the group because i have a great attitude when it comes to bosses, if you are my boss I Would treat you like you want to be treated, like a human being , and i would treat you with a yes sir or no sir, even if i was with you for 20 years, i would still answer you that way, because thats me, And the the other woman can go back to their lonely houses and sit on it, because i will be the one who will be dancing on the floor at night time,
Usually it happens over a long period of time so it creeps in and one day you wake up and you are an infant (or talking to your husband like he is one).
Both sides take crap is best and works out forever I think. Adjusting and never ever disrespecting the other..... but at the same time arguing or fighting with no thoughts of divorce or showing off what either is capable off? It works my friend it works.... worldwide it works and will work .......
wtf are you talking about
Honey if your girlfriend talks to you like you're a child and you find yourself constantly putting up with crap, then your relationship isn't healthy and you need to get out of it.
If your girlfriend talks to you like a child because you are too dumb to understand anything if you're spoken to like a regular adult, then she needs to dump your @ss because she's supposed to be a girlfriend, not a mommy.
Although I'm sure the latter wouldn't apply to you. :)
I agree. In general people would rather stop and hold a door for a stranger or bring treats to our coworkers than do these common courtesies for their spouse of loved one.
How do you tip the scale on LOVE/HATE relationships?
If you were in one, when do you finally either say, I'm done, I hate you! or I Love you more, I'm willing to stick it out?How do you tip the scale on LOVE/HATE relationships?
It's better to love. So I would do nice and loving things to this relationship. But it is up to you, considering if you even like this person or not really. Do you want to love them, or hate them?
Good Luck =)How do you tip the scale on LOVE/HATE relationships?
Have you ever tried past life regression?
Your issues with this person may have started a very long time ago.
You know it's done when you get this feeling of disgust.
right now in my relationship i am tipping towards the hate part :(
It's better to love. So I would do nice and loving things to this relationship. But it is up to you, considering if you even like this person or not really. Do you want to love them, or hate them?
Good Luck =)How do you tip the scale on LOVE/HATE relationships?
Have you ever tried past life regression?
Your issues with this person may have started a very long time ago.
You know it's done when you get this feeling of disgust.
right now in my relationship i am tipping towards the hate part :(
Y doesn't the wwe make anymore good onscreen relationships?
like the one with jeff hardy and trish, or maria and cena?
why they have to pair divas with ugly guys nowadays (michelle mccool and noble)? and popular superstars with fugly gals?
is there a possibility that they can become a couple offscreen because of the mushy scripts the writers make for them?Y doesn't the wwe make anymore good onscreen relationships?
WELL ITS THERE DECISION TO MAKE
COUPLES IN WWE RIGHT NOW THEY
HAVE BETH PHOENIX %26amp; SANTINO MARELLA
AND I THINK ITS OK BUT I HOPE THEY
WILL MAKE SOME GOOD IN FUTUREY doesn't the wwe make anymore good onscreen relationships?
I think they tried to push the cena and mickie james angle...not sure what happened there. But as for why they push the fugly with the hot...not sure...But they've done it for a while...and maybe they dont want to do it so often, because of the way the stars are in their routines with their kayfab enemies.
Trish Stratus and Jericho/Christian, Lita/MATT (nof JEFF )hardy/edge/kane, noble and whoever girl now...I think there's been three right? ...nidia back in the day, michelle mccool, and layla....
vicky and edge, Santino and Beth....
Old school Elizabeth and randy macho man savage/hogan....
Stacy Keibler and test....and....who else was it...steiner...
MNM (melina/nitro/mercury)
I cant think of any more at the moment..but there have been many over the years...they still continue to do it...as you can see...but just works or doesnt....and they can do only so much with all the storylines....they cant do it to all...
Cena and maria was not much of relationship and lita and jeffhardy was a real relationship, the only relationships really now is santino and beth pheonix which is kind of weird, most superstars are looking for the wwe main titles and i think there would be a different story line if they wanted to start a relationship in the middle of all that
Because WWE is not about relationships, it's about wrestling.
This is not 90210!
That's what happened between HHH and Stephaine. They were originally just an on screen couple, but spent so much time together that they fell for each other. It's very possible.
Wow just by ur pic, I can tell ur a mark.
LMAO You are!gloss
why they have to pair divas with ugly guys nowadays (michelle mccool and noble)? and popular superstars with fugly gals?
is there a possibility that they can become a couple offscreen because of the mushy scripts the writers make for them?Y doesn't the wwe make anymore good onscreen relationships?
WELL ITS THERE DECISION TO MAKE
COUPLES IN WWE RIGHT NOW THEY
HAVE BETH PHOENIX %26amp; SANTINO MARELLA
AND I THINK ITS OK BUT I HOPE THEY
WILL MAKE SOME GOOD IN FUTUREY doesn't the wwe make anymore good onscreen relationships?
I think they tried to push the cena and mickie james angle...not sure what happened there. But as for why they push the fugly with the hot...not sure...But they've done it for a while...and maybe they dont want to do it so often, because of the way the stars are in their routines with their kayfab enemies.
Trish Stratus and Jericho/Christian, Lita/MATT (nof JEFF )hardy/edge/kane, noble and whoever girl now...I think there's been three right? ...nidia back in the day, michelle mccool, and layla....
vicky and edge, Santino and Beth....
Old school Elizabeth and randy macho man savage/hogan....
Stacy Keibler and test....and....who else was it...steiner...
MNM (melina/nitro/mercury)
I cant think of any more at the moment..but there have been many over the years...they still continue to do it...as you can see...but just works or doesnt....and they can do only so much with all the storylines....they cant do it to all...
Cena and maria was not much of relationship and lita and jeffhardy was a real relationship, the only relationships really now is santino and beth pheonix which is kind of weird, most superstars are looking for the wwe main titles and i think there would be a different story line if they wanted to start a relationship in the middle of all that
Because WWE is not about relationships, it's about wrestling.
This is not 90210!
That's what happened between HHH and Stephaine. They were originally just an on screen couple, but spent so much time together that they fell for each other. It's very possible.
Wow just by ur pic, I can tell ur a mark.
LMAO You are!
Why do relationships dull a person out?
Well I have a friend who was very lively and fun until he got a girlfriend so I was kinda wondering why this happens. When you get in a relationship, why does it dull a person out, especially when it comes to other friends? and I kno it doesnt happen to everyone but it happened to him.Why do relationships dull a person out?
Because everyone looks for love and comfort. When you are single you have only the excitement of the moment with friends which is usually a false sense of fun because it is lonely. When you are in a relationship....that SEARCH for a woman or fun or calm is over. You have it. It is done. You can crawl into someones arms and feel love and a part of someone. You say it dulls a person out. It only makes them calm and happy and you will find the same thing one dayWhy do relationships dull a person out?
complacency and a drive to be what they think their partner needs them to be... I have a friend who ignores all her other friends when they a have a new person in their lives... maybe check in with him...
no excitement you must keep it spicy
woo-pah!
Takes up all the their Time...!!
because they get whipped
their focus changes that's all...
awwww...I'll be your friend ^^
Because everyone looks for love and comfort. When you are single you have only the excitement of the moment with friends which is usually a false sense of fun because it is lonely. When you are in a relationship....that SEARCH for a woman or fun or calm is over. You have it. It is done. You can crawl into someones arms and feel love and a part of someone. You say it dulls a person out. It only makes them calm and happy and you will find the same thing one dayWhy do relationships dull a person out?
complacency and a drive to be what they think their partner needs them to be... I have a friend who ignores all her other friends when they a have a new person in their lives... maybe check in with him...
no excitement you must keep it spicy
woo-pah!
Takes up all the their Time...!!
because they get whipped
their focus changes that's all...
awwww...I'll be your friend ^^
Do you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
i do, but i'm too afraid to say it outloud.
im a chick.
and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachmentDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
yea. that's what phuck buddies are for.Do you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
Guys usually say that!
In my experience, even when women say they feel that way, they end up feeling bad about themselves and feeling used.
I'm not judging, I'm just saying that's what I see happen.
Yea, I know what you mean. Then again most girls look at guys badly if they just want sex with no strings attached.
Sometimes...
No.
I want emotional attachment when I make love.
Sounds like you just need to be Bed Buddies with someone...
Ok...whatever.
Yes!! Sometimes it works out better that way!
well buddy its ur life and ur choice and i have no right to tell u what to do... but my suggestion is ... its a bad idea......
no not really i think just the opposite.
Are you 'legal'?
im a chick.
and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachmentDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
yea. that's what phuck buddies are for.Do you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
Guys usually say that!
In my experience, even when women say they feel that way, they end up feeling bad about themselves and feeling used.
I'm not judging, I'm just saying that's what I see happen.
Yea, I know what you mean. Then again most girls look at guys badly if they just want sex with no strings attached.
Sometimes...
No.
I want emotional attachment when I make love.
Sounds like you just need to be Bed Buddies with someone...
Ok...whatever.
Yes!! Sometimes it works out better that way!
well buddy its ur life and ur choice and i have no right to tell u what to do... but my suggestion is ... its a bad idea......
no not really i think just the opposite.
Are you 'legal'?
Histories and relationships between Krakow, Prague, and Amsterdam?
how these cities grew in relationship with each other and how often attacked?
please explain how they related with each other in overland trade and with Istanbul or which major cities?
which trade items?
and how similar are the architectures between these cities?
how different than the outer cities?
please explain and describe
thanks for your answers!Histories and relationships between Krakow, Prague, and Amsterdam?
noHistories and relationships between Krakow, Prague, and Amsterdam?
i think these cities were different times in major growth, but i think they all were tied to the northern trade ports of Amseterdame, Danzig (Gdansk), Hamburg, Lille? , and Riga, as well as maybe even london, Lisbon, Caterhegna?, however london was kind of its own kind of island then and they were more interested in expansion to the Eastern parts of Europe, especially st. petersburg, since many natural resources and land there.
and , yes, i think Istanbul or what was once known as Athens, Alexandria?, Babylon? or some christian name, i cant think of it, but his has always been a major city for trade out of persian part of world.
please explain how they related with each other in overland trade and with Istanbul or which major cities?
which trade items?
and how similar are the architectures between these cities?
how different than the outer cities?
please explain and describe
thanks for your answers!Histories and relationships between Krakow, Prague, and Amsterdam?
noHistories and relationships between Krakow, Prague, and Amsterdam?
i think these cities were different times in major growth, but i think they all were tied to the northern trade ports of Amseterdame, Danzig (Gdansk), Hamburg, Lille? , and Riga, as well as maybe even london, Lisbon, Caterhegna?, however london was kind of its own kind of island then and they were more interested in expansion to the Eastern parts of Europe, especially st. petersburg, since many natural resources and land there.
and , yes, i think Istanbul or what was once known as Athens, Alexandria?, Babylon? or some christian name, i cant think of it, but his has always been a major city for trade out of persian part of world.
Why are relationships important?
Why are relationships important?
what is important and why? how do they affect the individual? what happen during relationships? what makes them stronger and weaker and why do they end?
15 hours ago - 3 days left to answer. Why are relationships important?
humans are social animals
finding safety, common interest and comfort in one another builds strong relationships
dopamine levels created by our bodies further strengthen this feelingWhy are relationships important?
Human beings are social animals, most of us get lonely and like companionship and the safety and support of a partner. Sex with no feelings is ok, but with feelings it is much more wonderful.
People who are in long term relationships tend to live longer and report being happier than those who are single.
I think trust, honesty, fidelity, affection, laughter, intimacy, and shared history all make relationships stronger.
I think there are many reasons for break ups but the most universal is that people grow in different directions and at different rates. Sometimes they are unwilling or unable to catch up with each other and then do things which destroy the foundations of the relationship.
because its a chance for you to find something that completes you, someone who can make your personality glow, like icing on a cake, it gives you a sense of security, someone always being there for you, to have someone to tslk to all the time, who will hug you and kiss you and show you how special you are, not just in his heart, but in his world.
they become stronger when you get to know one anothers feelings and how the person works, how they react to things, knowing the right place to tickle them because it drives them crazy, what makes them is weaker, is no trust, no honesty, no COMPROMISE, its all about how you both are in it together!
they dont have to end, but if you dont have trust and those things, it can become a never-ending conflict, that will only bring stress and tears...
but let me tell you, once you find love, you will feel complete, its wonderful=]
Love is just one of those awesome things in life that it would be tragic not to experience.
... that and loving sex. :D Sex by itself is also good, but love really makes it hotter.
They help you grow as a person. help you discover new things about yourself. and all good things come to an end... but its just a new begining.
In one word TRUST
what is important and why? how do they affect the individual? what happen during relationships? what makes them stronger and weaker and why do they end?
15 hours ago - 3 days left to answer. Why are relationships important?
humans are social animals
finding safety, common interest and comfort in one another builds strong relationships
dopamine levels created by our bodies further strengthen this feelingWhy are relationships important?
Human beings are social animals, most of us get lonely and like companionship and the safety and support of a partner. Sex with no feelings is ok, but with feelings it is much more wonderful.
People who are in long term relationships tend to live longer and report being happier than those who are single.
I think trust, honesty, fidelity, affection, laughter, intimacy, and shared history all make relationships stronger.
I think there are many reasons for break ups but the most universal is that people grow in different directions and at different rates. Sometimes they are unwilling or unable to catch up with each other and then do things which destroy the foundations of the relationship.
because its a chance for you to find something that completes you, someone who can make your personality glow, like icing on a cake, it gives you a sense of security, someone always being there for you, to have someone to tslk to all the time, who will hug you and kiss you and show you how special you are, not just in his heart, but in his world.
they become stronger when you get to know one anothers feelings and how the person works, how they react to things, knowing the right place to tickle them because it drives them crazy, what makes them is weaker, is no trust, no honesty, no COMPROMISE, its all about how you both are in it together!
they dont have to end, but if you dont have trust and those things, it can become a never-ending conflict, that will only bring stress and tears...
but let me tell you, once you find love, you will feel complete, its wonderful=]
Love is just one of those awesome things in life that it would be tragic not to experience.
... that and loving sex. :D Sex by itself is also good, but love really makes it hotter.
They help you grow as a person. help you discover new things about yourself. and all good things come to an end... but its just a new begining.
In one word TRUST
What does talking actually mean when it comes to relationships?
like this guy and i are talking and he is going to this party on saturday and he said he is about to dance with other girls, should ijust not even be involved with him anymore? or just chill out its only dancing? but yal know what kind of dancing i'm talking aboutWhat does talking actually mean when it comes to relationships?
ummm sharing emothions
be real to yourself and don't be mean to anyone it is totally not worth it just be coll around everyone and don't worry about what people think about you it will keep up your confidence and keep you safe people will like ya beter trust me!! aaWhat does talking actually mean when it comes to relationships?
Well its really about trust. Do you trust him? If you don't then there is something more going on then just the party thing. I mean a relationship has to have trust. If you don't trust then the relationship will not be a happy one.
ummm sharing emothions
be real to yourself and don't be mean to anyone it is totally not worth it just be coll around everyone and don't worry about what people think about you it will keep up your confidence and keep you safe people will like ya beter trust me!! aaWhat does talking actually mean when it comes to relationships?
Well its really about trust. Do you trust him? If you don't then there is something more going on then just the party thing. I mean a relationship has to have trust. If you don't trust then the relationship will not be a happy one.
How many relationships did you have in undergraduate school?
Serious relationships, in love and all thatHow many relationships did you have in undergraduate school?
Three...How many relationships did you have in undergraduate school?
Yeah mami in cuba the kid singar have sex when have 8 years old, why not?
Im cubans I have 9 inches of pinga of dik you know and the womans when have sex when have 9 year when she have 16 year have double size of booobs
1 in love.... about 5 in ';all that';... Hell, I'm still an undergraduate!
none.
non-serious relationships? let's not go there.
24.
nonegloss
Three...How many relationships did you have in undergraduate school?
Yeah mami in cuba the kid singar have sex when have 8 years old, why not?
Im cubans I have 9 inches of pinga of dik you know and the womans when have sex when have 9 year when she have 16 year have double size of booobs
1 in love.... about 5 in ';all that';... Hell, I'm still an undergraduate!
none.
non-serious relationships? let's not go there.
24.
none
Do you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
i do, but i'm too afraid to say it outloud.
im a chick.
and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachmentDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
Well, ain't YOU gonna be busy answering the 476 random ';How YOU doin'?'; emails you're about to get in the next ten minutes....Do you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
well i wish I could seperate the two that way i wouldnt have to worry about gettin hurt if i wanted to hook up w/ a guy and im too sensitive to hurt someone or play someone
Yes, no extra baggage!!
:-)
im a chick.
and i just want to get laid without the emotional attachmentDo you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
Well, ain't YOU gonna be busy answering the 476 random ';How YOU doin'?'; emails you're about to get in the next ten minutes....Do you ever feel like you want sex and relationships/ emotions to be completely seperate?
well i wish I could seperate the two that way i wouldnt have to worry about gettin hurt if i wanted to hook up w/ a guy and im too sensitive to hurt someone or play someone
Yes, no extra baggage!!
:-)
I'm really shy when it comes to relationships, what can I do?
I'm a bisexual teenage girl, and I have a little experience with relationships and kissing, but not much. I just don't know how to approach people when I like them. I'm usually very outgoing and probably a little intimidating, but when it comes to dating, I'm very shy. How can I be more confident in getting what I want?I'm really shy when it comes to relationships, what can I do?
I think you partially answered your own question. If you're very outgoing, you'll most likely intimidate all of the shyer people. If there's someone you're interested in, be friendly but don't overwhelm them with your personality. If you show genuine interest in them, they'll be more likelly to warm up to you and you can take it from there. Hope this helps!
I think you partially answered your own question. If you're very outgoing, you'll most likely intimidate all of the shyer people. If there's someone you're interested in, be friendly but don't overwhelm them with your personality. If you show genuine interest in them, they'll be more likelly to warm up to you and you can take it from there. Hope this helps!
In Meditations by Marcus Aurelius what is unique to the good man? & what are the three relationships?
Sex , Drugs %26amp; Rock N' Roll
Is it true that all lesbians had disasterous relationships with their fathers?
Oh, definitely not. It's all just a matter of perspective. If this is a question which reflects your own concerns for ';coming out';, then listen up. If not, listen up anyways.
Nobody has to explain their sexuality to anyone, or try to modify it to please anyone but themselves. If someone is afraid of what their father might think of their homosexual tendencies then they need to take a breather and think it through. Try to gently approach the subject. They need to show their paternal caregiver that they are happy with who they are, and that he needs to accept that this is the life given to his daughter.
It also depends on who one's father is. What his beliefs are, and if he can make a exception for his daughter, which he should, seeing that she's his daughter. A father should be able to put all hands aside and love his children for who they are, despite his religion, or traditions, or opinions. Of course, this is hard, but he can still carry his identity all the while supporting his child. It doesn't make him a hypocrite, it makes him a loving father.
Not all fathers have disastrous relationships with their lesbian daughters. That's just a stereotype that is long outdated and whoever made it a stereotype should be shot. People need to accept all sexualities, religions, races different than their own if we want to attain peace in this world.
And if a father doesn't approve of his daughter ******* other girls, than he's going to have to get used to it.
Love can conquer a heck of a lot. Just remember that ;)Is it true that all lesbians had disasterous relationships with their fathers?
no. maybe for some.Is it true that all lesbians had disasterous relationships with their fathers?
While I have no facts to back this up, my best guess would be NO!!!!!
No it is not true. Women who have been sexually molested as children are more apt to become lesbian, not necessarily fathers....
No.
no, would told you that?
that is psycho blabber bull****. I am bi and i seriously just appreciate a womans body. And i love my daddy very very much.
no not at all. i'm a lesbian and me and my father are like best friends!
Nobody has to explain their sexuality to anyone, or try to modify it to please anyone but themselves. If someone is afraid of what their father might think of their homosexual tendencies then they need to take a breather and think it through. Try to gently approach the subject. They need to show their paternal caregiver that they are happy with who they are, and that he needs to accept that this is the life given to his daughter.
It also depends on who one's father is. What his beliefs are, and if he can make a exception for his daughter, which he should, seeing that she's his daughter. A father should be able to put all hands aside and love his children for who they are, despite his religion, or traditions, or opinions. Of course, this is hard, but he can still carry his identity all the while supporting his child. It doesn't make him a hypocrite, it makes him a loving father.
Not all fathers have disastrous relationships with their lesbian daughters. That's just a stereotype that is long outdated and whoever made it a stereotype should be shot. People need to accept all sexualities, religions, races different than their own if we want to attain peace in this world.
And if a father doesn't approve of his daughter ******* other girls, than he's going to have to get used to it.
Love can conquer a heck of a lot. Just remember that ;)Is it true that all lesbians had disasterous relationships with their fathers?
no. maybe for some.Is it true that all lesbians had disasterous relationships with their fathers?
While I have no facts to back this up, my best guess would be NO!!!!!
No it is not true. Women who have been sexually molested as children are more apt to become lesbian, not necessarily fathers....
No.
no, would told you that?
that is psycho blabber bull****. I am bi and i seriously just appreciate a womans body. And i love my daddy very very much.
no not at all. i'm a lesbian and me and my father are like best friends!
Do gay people grow up and have good relationships and marriages? Can only straight people have them?
I want to grow up and have a good life and marriage...is that possible?Do gay people grow up and have good relationships and marriages? Can only straight people have them?
Stephano: There's a lot of gay guys i know who are happy together in love. You have as a good a chance as anyone esle of finding a loving relationship. You should have the attitude that there's a guy or maybe a few guys out there for you and that you will find a long and happy relationship. Who ever told you that gay men can't be happy together is either lying or doesn't know what they're talking about. If your heart is a good and loving 1, you will find a guy to love you and make you very happy. Hope this helps. RobbDo gay people grow up and have good relationships and marriages? Can only straight people have them?
Obviously, being heterosexual is not the secret to happiness. If it were, we would not see so much divorce, abuse, child neglect, drugs, promiscuity, alcohol and violence in that lifestyle.
Good relationships and marriages have nothing to do with your sexual orientation. It's not only possible among gay people, it happens all the time.
Of course! I've been with my partner for 7 years now and haven't been happier. We're living better, and better off than a lot of our straight friends our age.
Although it may seem like society and the world is against the gay community from thriving, we continue to persist and are making enormous strides in our advancement.
Stay positive and always know that us gays are fabulous and are just as entitled to the perfect life as anyone else.
ok, here ya go. My mom was bi, my dad,gay. I am here and so is my older sis. For ya'all's info: my dad wasn't always gay, he started out bi. I have known some gay/bi couples that have been together longer than most str8 couples.
i know in the netherlands in belge and in spain and theres gay marriage and a special law for them to adopt kids but im not in the mood so theres the possibility but...
YES but only physically not mentally. I know a couple that has had a good marriage and family for almost forty years but still longs for what might have been if a fulfilled life had been obtainable for her
Yes, it is possible. I found mine at 19, and although it took 4 years before we could live together I am still with him and we have a great relationship some 20 years later.
Yes I've been with my husband for 10 years and he is a stud. Of course we have our friends join sometimes. If you're interested come visit my site there are a lot of hookups http://thel3vel.net
I was with my partner for over 18 years, which was more time than the marriages of my sister and brother - COMBINED!
Of course it is! I know countless gay couples that have been together longer than most straight couples.
Of Course
i'm straight i think gays can have healthy relationships. why wouldn't it work???
of course it is
Stephano: There's a lot of gay guys i know who are happy together in love. You have as a good a chance as anyone esle of finding a loving relationship. You should have the attitude that there's a guy or maybe a few guys out there for you and that you will find a long and happy relationship. Who ever told you that gay men can't be happy together is either lying or doesn't know what they're talking about. If your heart is a good and loving 1, you will find a guy to love you and make you very happy. Hope this helps. RobbDo gay people grow up and have good relationships and marriages? Can only straight people have them?
Obviously, being heterosexual is not the secret to happiness. If it were, we would not see so much divorce, abuse, child neglect, drugs, promiscuity, alcohol and violence in that lifestyle.
Good relationships and marriages have nothing to do with your sexual orientation. It's not only possible among gay people, it happens all the time.
Of course! I've been with my partner for 7 years now and haven't been happier. We're living better, and better off than a lot of our straight friends our age.
Although it may seem like society and the world is against the gay community from thriving, we continue to persist and are making enormous strides in our advancement.
Stay positive and always know that us gays are fabulous and are just as entitled to the perfect life as anyone else.
ok, here ya go. My mom was bi, my dad,gay. I am here and so is my older sis. For ya'all's info: my dad wasn't always gay, he started out bi. I have known some gay/bi couples that have been together longer than most str8 couples.
i know in the netherlands in belge and in spain and theres gay marriage and a special law for them to adopt kids but im not in the mood so theres the possibility but...
YES but only physically not mentally. I know a couple that has had a good marriage and family for almost forty years but still longs for what might have been if a fulfilled life had been obtainable for her
Yes, it is possible. I found mine at 19, and although it took 4 years before we could live together I am still with him and we have a great relationship some 20 years later.
Yes I've been with my husband for 10 years and he is a stud. Of course we have our friends join sometimes. If you're interested come visit my site there are a lot of hookups http://thel3vel.net
I was with my partner for over 18 years, which was more time than the marriages of my sister and brother - COMBINED!
Of course it is! I know countless gay couples that have been together longer than most straight couples.
Of Course
i'm straight i think gays can have healthy relationships. why wouldn't it work???
of course it is
DO RELATIONSHIPS work best when the partners are about equal in looks?
or if one is better looking???DO RELATIONSHIPS work best when the partners are about equal in looks?
yes, unless the ugly one has a lot of money.DO RELATIONSHIPS work best when the partners are about equal in looks?
Generally the best scenario is when the female is slightly better-looking than the male. This is because men tend to value looks more (sorry my fellow men, it's the reality, not being sexist), whereas women value support from their lovers more. Men won't want to lose good-looking partners, and thus would support them and do more for them to keep them.
As far as same-sex relationships, who knows and who cares?
well not everyone thinks the same things are attractive .. if they think your are attractive you think they are , it shouldnt matter .. if you start selling yourself short . your partner may start doing the same with you .. dont try and convince them they can do better . they like ya for a reaosn right?
Seriously? Looks aren't everything in a relationship. And whether it works or not isn't based off the other persons' looks-unless its a purely physical relationship.
it works best when partners are equal in ambition, devotion and life in general. but if one has to be better looking it's better if it's the woman.
Looks are only important at the beginning, when you're trying to attract that person's attention. Relationships rarely continue because of looks.
Hmmm...that's very hard. It usually works better if both partners are equal in the looks dept. but sometimes a pretty woman feels better with a less attractive man.
I dont think looks matter at all..I have a friend who is really pretty and she married a heavy set man that is plain looking and treats her great, she does the same with him..
it doesnt matter,,
its all about the personalities..
but in fairness..
there still has to be some physical attraction..
Looks mean nothing, its the personality that matters!
I don't see the different me my husband is way different. And we never have no trouble. But other people did and we don't care at all.
For me I think its about chemistry. If a guy is good looking but there's nothing there - then there's really no point.
Equal in looks!!!!
yes
THEY WORK BEST WHEN BOTH HAVE ENOUGH MONEY, OR ONE IS RICH
doesn't really matter as long as u love themgloss
yes, unless the ugly one has a lot of money.DO RELATIONSHIPS work best when the partners are about equal in looks?
Generally the best scenario is when the female is slightly better-looking than the male. This is because men tend to value looks more (sorry my fellow men, it's the reality, not being sexist), whereas women value support from their lovers more. Men won't want to lose good-looking partners, and thus would support them and do more for them to keep them.
As far as same-sex relationships, who knows and who cares?
well not everyone thinks the same things are attractive .. if they think your are attractive you think they are , it shouldnt matter .. if you start selling yourself short . your partner may start doing the same with you .. dont try and convince them they can do better . they like ya for a reaosn right?
Seriously? Looks aren't everything in a relationship. And whether it works or not isn't based off the other persons' looks-unless its a purely physical relationship.
it works best when partners are equal in ambition, devotion and life in general. but if one has to be better looking it's better if it's the woman.
Looks are only important at the beginning, when you're trying to attract that person's attention. Relationships rarely continue because of looks.
Hmmm...that's very hard. It usually works better if both partners are equal in the looks dept. but sometimes a pretty woman feels better with a less attractive man.
I dont think looks matter at all..I have a friend who is really pretty and she married a heavy set man that is plain looking and treats her great, she does the same with him..
it doesnt matter,,
its all about the personalities..
but in fairness..
there still has to be some physical attraction..
Looks mean nothing, its the personality that matters!
I don't see the different me my husband is way different. And we never have no trouble. But other people did and we don't care at all.
For me I think its about chemistry. If a guy is good looking but there's nothing there - then there's really no point.
Equal in looks!!!!
yes
THEY WORK BEST WHEN BOTH HAVE ENOUGH MONEY, OR ONE IS RICH
doesn't really matter as long as u love them
What do i do i need help in relationships?
I really like this boy in my year but dnt want to ask him out and i get embarrassed when loads of people know but really LOVE him what do i do?What do i do i need help in relationships?
how could u love him if u dont really kno him?
how could u love him if u dont really kno him?
What are some tips for successful long distance relationships?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and have been apart for four of those months. I am currently in graduate school and cannot move and at this point he is in a stable job in another state. We are doing the best we can at making this work because we both know we want to be together in the future, but of course it's very hard! If anyone has any advice for how to make long distance relationships work and thrive, it would be greatly appreciated!What are some tips for successful long distance relationships?
i married my wife and we were in this type of relationship...its not easy ...its frustrating at times...but its possible to make it happen...lots of commitment is needed...patience...and trust...she is from fort wayne Indiana..im from California...lots of phone bills...we make it a point to see each other ...at least once every 2 or 3 months...for a fefw day or just for the weekend....i go there or if she have the time..she commes here in california....in your situation..you dont need to move yet...but ......put in the effort to make things happen like seeing each other once every 2 or 3 months..what ever is available...make those phone calls...re assurer each other that you or he is still there for you...good luck to you...and your long distance relationship....dont give up if you love each other...and most of all,,,,dont listen to those non believersWhat are some tips for successful long distance relationships?
For the first 2 years my husband and I knew eachother, we lived in totally different countries, me in Japan and he in the U.S. and then Iraq, so we had lots of LDR experience! It helps to have an end in sight, like if you guys have a tentative date when you know you'll be together for good. That makes it easier to get through the times you miss eachother.
Keep in contact however you can, via phone, webcam, snail mail or email, don't spare any time or expense in staying in touch.
Above all, just hold on to the idea that you WILL be together and are committed to making it so, then the idea of not being together will seem ridiculous. There were times I felt awful when we were apart, but I just knew there was no other alternative. Would I rather break up with him? Heck no! That would have truly terrible.
It can be rough, but if you make it through you will truly appreciate the time you have together, perhaps more so than couples who have always lived near eachother. We were reunited for good in January of '05 and have been married nearly 3 years, and I still savor every day we're together because I remember how much it hurt to be apart for so long (longest stretch without seeing eachother in person: 10 months).
Expect the worse hope for the best
that or just dont do it
Visit each other whenever you can, and phone sex.
Yes, my partner and I were separate for onver a year, in separate countries. We talked on the phone daily (and I mean daily for over a year). I found a cheap international phone card so we could talk daily. We got a web cam so we used that too, sometimes, when we talked. It also helped to plan our next visit with each other. He came to me or I went there as often as possible. Sometimes we met once per month, and no more than three months without spending a week or two together. Counting down the days until our next time together helped. We shared the cost of plane tickets, and that was well worth the expense. Now we are together, forever.
1. Honest and open communication.
2. Snail mail - letters and cards and presents are much more special.
3. Phone sex!
make sure you guys communicate alot to make things works. my friend and her boyfriend made it work with webcam and aim, msn, myspace, e-mail, phone. the technology today will help you alot to make a long distant relationship work. try it with webcam and see how you both feel about it.
i married my wife and we were in this type of relationship...its not easy ...its frustrating at times...but its possible to make it happen...lots of commitment is needed...patience...and trust...she is from fort wayne Indiana..im from California...lots of phone bills...we make it a point to see each other ...at least once every 2 or 3 months...for a fefw day or just for the weekend....i go there or if she have the time..she commes here in california....in your situation..you dont need to move yet...but ......put in the effort to make things happen like seeing each other once every 2 or 3 months..what ever is available...make those phone calls...re assurer each other that you or he is still there for you...good luck to you...and your long distance relationship....dont give up if you love each other...and most of all,,,,dont listen to those non believersWhat are some tips for successful long distance relationships?
For the first 2 years my husband and I knew eachother, we lived in totally different countries, me in Japan and he in the U.S. and then Iraq, so we had lots of LDR experience! It helps to have an end in sight, like if you guys have a tentative date when you know you'll be together for good. That makes it easier to get through the times you miss eachother.
Keep in contact however you can, via phone, webcam, snail mail or email, don't spare any time or expense in staying in touch.
Above all, just hold on to the idea that you WILL be together and are committed to making it so, then the idea of not being together will seem ridiculous. There were times I felt awful when we were apart, but I just knew there was no other alternative. Would I rather break up with him? Heck no! That would have truly terrible.
It can be rough, but if you make it through you will truly appreciate the time you have together, perhaps more so than couples who have always lived near eachother. We were reunited for good in January of '05 and have been married nearly 3 years, and I still savor every day we're together because I remember how much it hurt to be apart for so long (longest stretch without seeing eachother in person: 10 months).
Expect the worse hope for the best
that or just dont do it
Visit each other whenever you can, and phone sex.
Yes, my partner and I were separate for onver a year, in separate countries. We talked on the phone daily (and I mean daily for over a year). I found a cheap international phone card so we could talk daily. We got a web cam so we used that too, sometimes, when we talked. It also helped to plan our next visit with each other. He came to me or I went there as often as possible. Sometimes we met once per month, and no more than three months without spending a week or two together. Counting down the days until our next time together helped. We shared the cost of plane tickets, and that was well worth the expense. Now we are together, forever.
1. Honest and open communication.
2. Snail mail - letters and cards and presents are much more special.
3. Phone sex!
make sure you guys communicate alot to make things works. my friend and her boyfriend made it work with webcam and aim, msn, myspace, e-mail, phone. the technology today will help you alot to make a long distant relationship work. try it with webcam and see how you both feel about it.
Most important elements in full and satisfying sexual relationships?
one of the most important elements in full and satisfying sexual relationships is
A. effective mutual communication
B. equality of experince
C. knowledge of various sexual techniques
D. the availability of a variety of partners
any ideas which one is currect? thanksMost important elements in full and satisfying sexual relationships?
A - every one is different, and of course you past does help, but you must be felxiable in any new relastionship.Most important elements in full and satisfying sexual relationships?
For me, A is the most important. Variety of partners
doesn't matter if you're committed to just one, doesn't matter
how much experience either of you has, and the technique
thing you just work out between yourselves as you go along.
definitely A. if you have communication with your partner, you can come up with new ';ways';.
Effective communication is impotant in any relationship
effective mutual communication without it nothing else works
first of all, currect is spelled CORRECT. and letter A is the answer.
I say C.
you need BOTH A and C.
A. effective mutual communication
B. equality of experince
C. knowledge of various sexual techniques
D. the availability of a variety of partners
any ideas which one is currect? thanksMost important elements in full and satisfying sexual relationships?
A - every one is different, and of course you past does help, but you must be felxiable in any new relastionship.Most important elements in full and satisfying sexual relationships?
For me, A is the most important. Variety of partners
doesn't matter if you're committed to just one, doesn't matter
how much experience either of you has, and the technique
thing you just work out between yourselves as you go along.
definitely A. if you have communication with your partner, you can come up with new ';ways';.
Effective communication is impotant in any relationship
effective mutual communication without it nothing else works
first of all, currect is spelled CORRECT. and letter A is the answer.
I say C.
you need BOTH A and C.
What do you dislike most about love and relationships?
they try to be like the third parent
always telling you r what you can and cant do
always calling you to check up on you
always trying to control you
always stressful
always on your case and dont give you spaceWhat do you dislike most about love and relationships?
Love-- I don't know what love is or what it means. I have felt adoration, affection, lust and infatuation, but I don't know about ';love';. It seems like a silly word/concept to me most of the time. It suggests self-sacrifice and martyrdom, that you're willing to give up X and Y for this person, that you're willing to fight for them, kill for them, die for them. I have problems trusting people so I don't know how I could feel that kind of ';love'; (loyalty) to someone unless I knew for sure that they would never betray me. I could imagine being a very fierce mother, like a mother bear mauling anyone who threatens her cubs. One of the things I want to experience most in life is a mother's love.
What I dislike most about relationships-- When they end and we just keep hanging on because we are used to smelling each other's body smells and pheromones. I think a large part of human relationships has to do with just having a warm body next to you, simple companionship. I still don't know if some people just feel completely passionate for each other forever, or if they force themselves to stay together even when they are tired of smelling each others smells and pheromones. I think growing old is both sweet and sad, sometimes funny. It would suck to grow old alone, I think that's why most people seek permanent fixtures of companionship, like marriage and family. Even people who say they don't eventually do when they get old enough to understand their mortality.
I have problems with the word ';love'; and ';forever';.What do you dislike most about love and relationships?
Not having my own space/being an independant person. Living with someone takes some getting used to - like Mabel said, suddenly you don't make dates with your partner, you make times that you DON'T spend with your partner.
And like Gazz said when they end :-( Constantly worrying about the other person or dealing with rejection if it's not mutual.
Not much. I haven't ended any relationships on bad terms with the other person, and the one I'm in now is going very well in all manageable aspects (there's a distance issue that keeps cropping up as we're both involved with academia which tends to send us all over the country, so neither of us is jumping to ascribe any permanence to the relationship yet).
But then, I'm not one to hastily dive into a relationship, so I don't usually end up in rotten situations with bad eggs. ';Love at first sight'; isn't as romantic a notion when you start discovering that there's more to a relationship than sight, and that picking personalities at random is a really bad way to try to find a potential partner in a healthy relationship.
I think there's a lot to be said for taking it slow, in terms of avoiding bad relationships. You end up a lot less bitter that way.
If i was forced to pick one, it would be my loss of freedom. By that, i just mean trivial things like i cant stay out all night without being missed (i live with my partner now, whereas i have lived alone for 8 years previously), i cant go out straight from work without letting him know (it would be thoughtless and bad mannered of me if i didnt). But like ive said, its only a small thing, and it would only be if i was forced to pick something i didnt like, because the things i DO like about being in a relationship and having someone love me, more than makes up for that!
The risk that your own feelings might not be returned. Not everyone is able to love you more than they love themselves. Need for constant work to keep your relationship healthy and happy. Complete loss of personal space and me - time.
Wow. I never thought I will be able to list them all, because I have been happily married for almost 19 years now. It really is not that bad, because you get to share your victories and failures in life with your very best friend and lover. Sounds good to me, even if it takes some work. Smile.
How much it hurts when yo fight.
How much work it takes to keep a relationship alive.
I don't like feeling like half of an old married couple, which tends to happen after I've been with someone for a while. And the monotony of having to wake up next to the same person day after day after day.
There's not much I do like about relationships to be honest and prefer to keep things casual. I'm sure I'll change my mind eventually but right now I'm young and have plenty of time...
Disagreements and stubbornness. Especially when one of you is being stubborn and not listening or refusing to compromise.
Guys in my personal space or making assumptions or being sexist.
I'm not a possession, gosh.
But not all guys are like that. So I'll have to think of something else...
Being hurt when it goes wrong at points, or fails over all. There's nothing worse for me or nothing that affects me more deeply than problems with those I love.
Games and dishonestly.
It cheapens the whole thing and makes SEX and short-term flings look a lot better than commitment at the end.
And it IS... usually.
The potential for extreme heartbreak. The thought of anything happening to my husband just kills me. Ditto with my kids. It was hard enough losing our baby at birth. We hadn't really gotten to know her yet - it would be that much worse losing a child who has been part of our family for years and who we know and love so well.
That's the one thing I dislike about loving people. It leaves you vulnerable to so much heartache. But I think the benefit is worth the risk!
I hate the fact that people (ie the women in my life) always want to chain a relationship down in the false belief that it can be ';preserved'; in some way or the other (which usually just serves to shorten it even more). Love doesn't die (for me, at least, it never has), but relationships do, unfortunately.
having my heart broken into pieces, getting upset and being lied to by the man i love hurts a lot, its really hard.
I hate the fact it's so commercial.
The fact that the majority of people seem to think everyone needs one or both of them in order to be happy. Blah! I'm just fine on my own thank you.
always telling you r what you can and cant do
always calling you to check up on you
always trying to control you
always stressful
always on your case and dont give you spaceWhat do you dislike most about love and relationships?
Love-- I don't know what love is or what it means. I have felt adoration, affection, lust and infatuation, but I don't know about ';love';. It seems like a silly word/concept to me most of the time. It suggests self-sacrifice and martyrdom, that you're willing to give up X and Y for this person, that you're willing to fight for them, kill for them, die for them. I have problems trusting people so I don't know how I could feel that kind of ';love'; (loyalty) to someone unless I knew for sure that they would never betray me. I could imagine being a very fierce mother, like a mother bear mauling anyone who threatens her cubs. One of the things I want to experience most in life is a mother's love.
What I dislike most about relationships-- When they end and we just keep hanging on because we are used to smelling each other's body smells and pheromones. I think a large part of human relationships has to do with just having a warm body next to you, simple companionship. I still don't know if some people just feel completely passionate for each other forever, or if they force themselves to stay together even when they are tired of smelling each others smells and pheromones. I think growing old is both sweet and sad, sometimes funny. It would suck to grow old alone, I think that's why most people seek permanent fixtures of companionship, like marriage and family. Even people who say they don't eventually do when they get old enough to understand their mortality.
I have problems with the word ';love'; and ';forever';.What do you dislike most about love and relationships?
Not having my own space/being an independant person. Living with someone takes some getting used to - like Mabel said, suddenly you don't make dates with your partner, you make times that you DON'T spend with your partner.
And like Gazz said when they end :-( Constantly worrying about the other person or dealing with rejection if it's not mutual.
Not much. I haven't ended any relationships on bad terms with the other person, and the one I'm in now is going very well in all manageable aspects (there's a distance issue that keeps cropping up as we're both involved with academia which tends to send us all over the country, so neither of us is jumping to ascribe any permanence to the relationship yet).
But then, I'm not one to hastily dive into a relationship, so I don't usually end up in rotten situations with bad eggs. ';Love at first sight'; isn't as romantic a notion when you start discovering that there's more to a relationship than sight, and that picking personalities at random is a really bad way to try to find a potential partner in a healthy relationship.
I think there's a lot to be said for taking it slow, in terms of avoiding bad relationships. You end up a lot less bitter that way.
If i was forced to pick one, it would be my loss of freedom. By that, i just mean trivial things like i cant stay out all night without being missed (i live with my partner now, whereas i have lived alone for 8 years previously), i cant go out straight from work without letting him know (it would be thoughtless and bad mannered of me if i didnt). But like ive said, its only a small thing, and it would only be if i was forced to pick something i didnt like, because the things i DO like about being in a relationship and having someone love me, more than makes up for that!
The risk that your own feelings might not be returned. Not everyone is able to love you more than they love themselves. Need for constant work to keep your relationship healthy and happy. Complete loss of personal space and me - time.
Wow. I never thought I will be able to list them all, because I have been happily married for almost 19 years now. It really is not that bad, because you get to share your victories and failures in life with your very best friend and lover. Sounds good to me, even if it takes some work. Smile.
How much it hurts when yo fight.
How much work it takes to keep a relationship alive.
I don't like feeling like half of an old married couple, which tends to happen after I've been with someone for a while. And the monotony of having to wake up next to the same person day after day after day.
There's not much I do like about relationships to be honest and prefer to keep things casual. I'm sure I'll change my mind eventually but right now I'm young and have plenty of time...
Disagreements and stubbornness. Especially when one of you is being stubborn and not listening or refusing to compromise.
Guys in my personal space or making assumptions or being sexist.
I'm not a possession, gosh.
But not all guys are like that. So I'll have to think of something else...
Being hurt when it goes wrong at points, or fails over all. There's nothing worse for me or nothing that affects me more deeply than problems with those I love.
Games and dishonestly.
It cheapens the whole thing and makes SEX and short-term flings look a lot better than commitment at the end.
And it IS... usually.
The potential for extreme heartbreak. The thought of anything happening to my husband just kills me. Ditto with my kids. It was hard enough losing our baby at birth. We hadn't really gotten to know her yet - it would be that much worse losing a child who has been part of our family for years and who we know and love so well.
That's the one thing I dislike about loving people. It leaves you vulnerable to so much heartache. But I think the benefit is worth the risk!
I hate the fact that people (ie the women in my life) always want to chain a relationship down in the false belief that it can be ';preserved'; in some way or the other (which usually just serves to shorten it even more). Love doesn't die (for me, at least, it never has), but relationships do, unfortunately.
having my heart broken into pieces, getting upset and being lied to by the man i love hurts a lot, its really hard.
I hate the fact it's so commercial.
The fact that the majority of people seem to think everyone needs one or both of them in order to be happy. Blah! I'm just fine on my own thank you.
Do relationships ever work the second time around?
What is your experience? If a relationship ends because both parties were unhappy, but they get back together again to give it a try, what is the chance that it would work, with no councilling or anything like that, just determination.Do relationships ever work the second time around?
It can work out if you two learned what was missing in the first round. I have done it before and it didn't work out , he was still the same person.Do relationships ever work the second time around?
It depends on what was going on in the relationship. If the reason that they were unhappy can be changed, then I don't see why things couldn't work out. Let's just say that the woman wanted more romance from her partner: she was very unhappy with the lack of romance, but he worked on the issue and became more romantic, then things could work out.
Moast of the time no, when people break up they do it for a reason.
Well I would have to say yea. My girlfriend and I broke up for about 6 six months and are now engaged and have been together for 5 years. So I would have to say it all depends on the love trust and commitment to each other.
Yes I'm living it right now so it does work out.
its easy to restart...but the trust issue is always the hardest to overcome!
Isn't a long term realtionship just a constant stream of second time arounds?
Yes. My uncle and aunt were married the first time about 5 years - got divorced - then remarried about 3 years later. That has been over 20 years ago now.
It can work out if you two learned what was missing in the first round. I have done it before and it didn't work out , he was still the same person.Do relationships ever work the second time around?
It depends on what was going on in the relationship. If the reason that they were unhappy can be changed, then I don't see why things couldn't work out. Let's just say that the woman wanted more romance from her partner: she was very unhappy with the lack of romance, but he worked on the issue and became more romantic, then things could work out.
Moast of the time no, when people break up they do it for a reason.
Well I would have to say yea. My girlfriend and I broke up for about 6 six months and are now engaged and have been together for 5 years. So I would have to say it all depends on the love trust and commitment to each other.
Yes I'm living it right now so it does work out.
its easy to restart...but the trust issue is always the hardest to overcome!
Isn't a long term realtionship just a constant stream of second time arounds?
Yes. My uncle and aunt were married the first time about 5 years - got divorced - then remarried about 3 years later. That has been over 20 years ago now.
Women scare me. How can I stop being afraid of them and finally start getting into relationships?
Face the fear
As a man
women are like buses
theres always another one in 5 minutes
no offense to any femalesWomen scare me. How can I stop being afraid of them and finally start getting into relationships?
GUYS scare me. They never want to commit. I guess I'M coming from the other side of the fence!Women scare me. How can I stop being afraid of them and finally start getting into relationships?
You might be gaygloss
As a man
women are like buses
theres always another one in 5 minutes
no offense to any femalesWomen scare me. How can I stop being afraid of them and finally start getting into relationships?
GUYS scare me. They never want to commit. I guess I'M coming from the other side of the fence!Women scare me. How can I stop being afraid of them and finally start getting into relationships?
You might be gay
What have you learned most form you past relationships?
Not to rush thinks, don't change who you are, and have fun
How far is too far in student teacher relationships?
I've always been curious about this? I am a female student, not stupid or naive. Many male teachers seem to become inappropriate with their students. How far is too far to you? I've seen ones look at my breasts, and I've seen some become ';too close'; with friends. One even got fired for doing a very inappropriate thing to a friend. So what do you think? Any opinion is appreciated.How far is too far in student teacher relationships?
I believe teachers should be friends, but not make any sexual relation. Like looking at you, ';checking you out';. I also believe that flirting is awful, and I see most teachers do it in my school which totally disgusts me. They always try to flirt with me, and I believe, us girls, get special attention from teachers. And they treat us better. Boys are more mistreated and not cared for as much.How far is too far in student teacher relationships?
My daughters band teacher felt it somehow appropriate enough to kiss her on the lips. Not a lip locker but she had already felt uncomfortable around him. THAT WAS WAY TOO FAR ! I had a FIT !!!!!!! No-one got fired but we did make sure there was something in the folder. Everyone needs to learn to play nice and stay appropriate with one another. But we need to be able to open up and relax and play too. We can't all be afraid of every little gesture that doesn't suit our personal beliefs. Worse even try to push them on someone else. BUT- This is a problem. Male and Femal teachers alike. I think that just liek middle age when you're finally ready to breakfree from the kids and have some life of your own socially maybe these teachers confuse their work time with social time from the stress of dealing with the kids all of the time. I don't know. But they definitely need to get out of the school, out of the house, and out of the neighborhood just a litle bit more. AND STOP WITH THE KIDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
Anything that is questionable is probably too far.They should not be checking out your breasts reguardless of their age or your age.They should not be ';getting too close'; with their students either.
I believe teachers should be friends, but not make any sexual relation. Like looking at you, ';checking you out';. I also believe that flirting is awful, and I see most teachers do it in my school which totally disgusts me. They always try to flirt with me, and I believe, us girls, get special attention from teachers. And they treat us better. Boys are more mistreated and not cared for as much.How far is too far in student teacher relationships?
My daughters band teacher felt it somehow appropriate enough to kiss her on the lips. Not a lip locker but she had already felt uncomfortable around him. THAT WAS WAY TOO FAR ! I had a FIT !!!!!!! No-one got fired but we did make sure there was something in the folder. Everyone needs to learn to play nice and stay appropriate with one another. But we need to be able to open up and relax and play too. We can't all be afraid of every little gesture that doesn't suit our personal beliefs. Worse even try to push them on someone else. BUT- This is a problem. Male and Femal teachers alike. I think that just liek middle age when you're finally ready to breakfree from the kids and have some life of your own socially maybe these teachers confuse their work time with social time from the stress of dealing with the kids all of the time. I don't know. But they definitely need to get out of the school, out of the house, and out of the neighborhood just a litle bit more. AND STOP WITH THE KIDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
Anything that is questionable is probably too far.They should not be checking out your breasts reguardless of their age or your age.They should not be ';getting too close'; with their students either.
Why is there that saying there is more fish in the sea when it comes to relationships?
It's usually used when someone is going through a breakup - either a guy or a gal.
It basically says, ';there are more fish out there';, meaning if you're looking (fishing), you'll find (catch) someone else.
I think it's kind of a dumb saying... but there are certainly a lot worse :-)Why is there that saying there is more fish in the sea when it comes to relationships?
It's either a sign to not give up hope
or a sign to try to fish somewhere else.
However if people would keep trying to put the same effort in keeping a romance alive as they did to when the hearts of that person, the romance would never fail.
Or start for that matter.
The person would find out before the heartbreak what the other one is really like.Why is there that saying there is more fish in the sea when it comes to relationships?
OMG...That's nonsense and totally not true...
Even though there's a lot of fish in the ocean, you can't like them all...
you'll still search for the one you've lost and loved...
hehehe
so it's better to say ';there's a lot of fish in the ocean but you can't find nemo';
♦ Telling you that there are more people out there.
If someone is fishing and pull up a little fish, or one not to there liking, they can throw it back, because there are more fish in the sea.. (get a different one)
it is an old fishing analogy. life is like fishing if one fish gets off your hook there are plenty enough fish in the sea. it probably came from a man to his son we are often not comfortable talking about that stuff.
There really are more people out there that's what it means. Belive me I was a batter wife for 5 years and never thought I would meet anyone so nice until I meet my match my husband now for 28 years God I love that man so there you go yes it is true
because there arfe so many people in this world u will find another one enventually for u that is just write lol
Because many fish can change genders and if guys/girls aren't working for you doctors can change that
This means that if something happens to the relationship, that there is always someone out there for you to meet.
:-)
A Great ';Oldie';....';Too Many Fish in the Sea';.....Many to choose from, why hurry.....??
it means there are always other people to have a relationship with if your relationship with someone fails
You could just say there are more people in the world, but people like to make it seem more interesting.
So you don't feel bad after breaking up with your other fish...um, I mean boyfriend/girlfriend.
Telling you don't give up, there is someone better around the corner.
wishful thinking......
It means get over the one you lost out on and keep trying.
that there's more people out there for you if it doesn't work out with that one person
because every girl has a fish for you to bite.... haha
you'll find someone better.
they're more guys out there. (or girls)
gee, i don't know...let me think about your tough question for a while.
more people out there to love
to give you hope.
It basically says, ';there are more fish out there';, meaning if you're looking (fishing), you'll find (catch) someone else.
I think it's kind of a dumb saying... but there are certainly a lot worse :-)Why is there that saying there is more fish in the sea when it comes to relationships?
It's either a sign to not give up hope
or a sign to try to fish somewhere else.
However if people would keep trying to put the same effort in keeping a romance alive as they did to when the hearts of that person, the romance would never fail.
Or start for that matter.
The person would find out before the heartbreak what the other one is really like.Why is there that saying there is more fish in the sea when it comes to relationships?
OMG...That's nonsense and totally not true...
Even though there's a lot of fish in the ocean, you can't like them all...
you'll still search for the one you've lost and loved...
hehehe
so it's better to say ';there's a lot of fish in the ocean but you can't find nemo';
♦ Telling you that there are more people out there.
If someone is fishing and pull up a little fish, or one not to there liking, they can throw it back, because there are more fish in the sea.. (get a different one)
it is an old fishing analogy. life is like fishing if one fish gets off your hook there are plenty enough fish in the sea. it probably came from a man to his son we are often not comfortable talking about that stuff.
There really are more people out there that's what it means. Belive me I was a batter wife for 5 years and never thought I would meet anyone so nice until I meet my match my husband now for 28 years God I love that man so there you go yes it is true
because there arfe so many people in this world u will find another one enventually for u that is just write lol
Because many fish can change genders and if guys/girls aren't working for you doctors can change that
This means that if something happens to the relationship, that there is always someone out there for you to meet.
:-)
A Great ';Oldie';....';Too Many Fish in the Sea';.....Many to choose from, why hurry.....??
it means there are always other people to have a relationship with if your relationship with someone fails
You could just say there are more people in the world, but people like to make it seem more interesting.
So you don't feel bad after breaking up with your other fish...um, I mean boyfriend/girlfriend.
Telling you don't give up, there is someone better around the corner.
wishful thinking......
It means get over the one you lost out on and keep trying.
that there's more people out there for you if it doesn't work out with that one person
because every girl has a fish for you to bite.... haha
you'll find someone better.
they're more guys out there. (or girls)
gee, i don't know...let me think about your tough question for a while.
more people out there to love
to give you hope.
How far is too far in student teacher relationships?
I've always been curious about this? I am a female student, not stupid or naive. Many male teachers seem to become inappropriate with their students. How far is too far to you? I've seen ones look at my breasts, and I've seen some become ';too close'; with friends. One even got fired for doing a very inappropriate thing to a friend. So what do you think? Any opinion is appreciated.How far is too far in student teacher relationships?
I believe teachers should be friends, but not make any sexual relation. Like looking at you, ';checking you out';. I also believe that flirting is awful, and I see most teachers do it in my school which totally disgusts me. They always try to flirt with me, and I believe, us girls, get special attention from teachers. And they treat us better. Boys are more mistreated and not cared for as much.How far is too far in student teacher relationships?
My daughters band teacher felt it somehow appropriate enough to kiss her on the lips. Not a lip locker but she had already felt uncomfortable around him. THAT WAS WAY TOO FAR ! I had a FIT !!!!!!! No-one got fired but we did make sure there was something in the folder. Everyone needs to learn to play nice and stay appropriate with one another. But we need to be able to open up and relax and play too. We can't all be afraid of every little gesture that doesn't suit our personal beliefs. Worse even try to push them on someone else. BUT- This is a problem. Male and Femal teachers alike. I think that just liek middle age when you're finally ready to breakfree from the kids and have some life of your own socially maybe these teachers confuse their work time with social time from the stress of dealing with the kids all of the time. I don't know. But they definitely need to get out of the school, out of the house, and out of the neighborhood just a litle bit more. AND STOP WITH THE KIDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
Anything that is questionable is probably too far.They should not be checking out your breasts reguardless of their age or your age.They should not be ';getting too close'; with their students either.
I believe teachers should be friends, but not make any sexual relation. Like looking at you, ';checking you out';. I also believe that flirting is awful, and I see most teachers do it in my school which totally disgusts me. They always try to flirt with me, and I believe, us girls, get special attention from teachers. And they treat us better. Boys are more mistreated and not cared for as much.How far is too far in student teacher relationships?
My daughters band teacher felt it somehow appropriate enough to kiss her on the lips. Not a lip locker but she had already felt uncomfortable around him. THAT WAS WAY TOO FAR ! I had a FIT !!!!!!! No-one got fired but we did make sure there was something in the folder. Everyone needs to learn to play nice and stay appropriate with one another. But we need to be able to open up and relax and play too. We can't all be afraid of every little gesture that doesn't suit our personal beliefs. Worse even try to push them on someone else. BUT- This is a problem. Male and Femal teachers alike. I think that just liek middle age when you're finally ready to breakfree from the kids and have some life of your own socially maybe these teachers confuse their work time with social time from the stress of dealing with the kids all of the time. I don't know. But they definitely need to get out of the school, out of the house, and out of the neighborhood just a litle bit more. AND STOP WITH THE KIDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
Anything that is questionable is probably too far.They should not be checking out your breasts reguardless of their age or your age.They should not be ';getting too close'; with their students either.
Why is there that saying there is more fish in the sea when it comes to relationships?
It's usually used when someone is going through a breakup - either a guy or a gal.
It basically says, ';there are more fish out there';, meaning if you're looking (fishing), you'll find (catch) someone else.
I think it's kind of a dumb saying... but there are certainly a lot worse :-)Why is there that saying there is more fish in the sea when it comes to relationships?
It's either a sign to not give up hope
or a sign to try to fish somewhere else.
However if people would keep trying to put the same effort in keeping a romance alive as they did to when the hearts of that person, the romance would never fail.
Or start for that matter.
The person would find out before the heartbreak what the other one is really like.Why is there that saying there is more fish in the sea when it comes to relationships?
OMG...That's nonsense and totally not true...
Even though there's a lot of fish in the ocean, you can't like them all...
you'll still search for the one you've lost and loved...
hehehe
so it's better to say ';there's a lot of fish in the ocean but you can't find nemo';
♦ Telling you that there are more people out there.
If someone is fishing and pull up a little fish, or one not to there liking, they can throw it back, because there are more fish in the sea.. (get a different one)
it is an old fishing analogy. life is like fishing if one fish gets off your hook there are plenty enough fish in the sea. it probably came from a man to his son we are often not comfortable talking about that stuff.
There really are more people out there that's what it means. Belive me I was a batter wife for 5 years and never thought I would meet anyone so nice until I meet my match my husband now for 28 years God I love that man so there you go yes it is true
because there arfe so many people in this world u will find another one enventually for u that is just write lol
Because many fish can change genders and if guys/girls aren't working for you doctors can change that
This means that if something happens to the relationship, that there is always someone out there for you to meet.
:-)
A Great ';Oldie';....';Too Many Fish in the Sea';.....Many to choose from, why hurry.....??
it means there are always other people to have a relationship with if your relationship with someone fails
You could just say there are more people in the world, but people like to make it seem more interesting.
So you don't feel bad after breaking up with your other fish...um, I mean boyfriend/girlfriend.
Telling you don't give up, there is someone better around the corner.
wishful thinking......
It means get over the one you lost out on and keep trying.
that there's more people out there for you if it doesn't work out with that one person
because every girl has a fish for you to bite.... haha
you'll find someone better.
they're more guys out there. (or girls)
gee, i don't know...let me think about your tough question for a while.
more people out there to love
to give you hope.
It basically says, ';there are more fish out there';, meaning if you're looking (fishing), you'll find (catch) someone else.
I think it's kind of a dumb saying... but there are certainly a lot worse :-)Why is there that saying there is more fish in the sea when it comes to relationships?
It's either a sign to not give up hope
or a sign to try to fish somewhere else.
However if people would keep trying to put the same effort in keeping a romance alive as they did to when the hearts of that person, the romance would never fail.
Or start for that matter.
The person would find out before the heartbreak what the other one is really like.Why is there that saying there is more fish in the sea when it comes to relationships?
OMG...That's nonsense and totally not true...
Even though there's a lot of fish in the ocean, you can't like them all...
you'll still search for the one you've lost and loved...
hehehe
so it's better to say ';there's a lot of fish in the ocean but you can't find nemo';
♦ Telling you that there are more people out there.
If someone is fishing and pull up a little fish, or one not to there liking, they can throw it back, because there are more fish in the sea.. (get a different one)
it is an old fishing analogy. life is like fishing if one fish gets off your hook there are plenty enough fish in the sea. it probably came from a man to his son we are often not comfortable talking about that stuff.
There really are more people out there that's what it means. Belive me I was a batter wife for 5 years and never thought I would meet anyone so nice until I meet my match my husband now for 28 years God I love that man so there you go yes it is true
because there arfe so many people in this world u will find another one enventually for u that is just write lol
Because many fish can change genders and if guys/girls aren't working for you doctors can change that
This means that if something happens to the relationship, that there is always someone out there for you to meet.
:-)
A Great ';Oldie';....';Too Many Fish in the Sea';.....Many to choose from, why hurry.....??
it means there are always other people to have a relationship with if your relationship with someone fails
You could just say there are more people in the world, but people like to make it seem more interesting.
So you don't feel bad after breaking up with your other fish...um, I mean boyfriend/girlfriend.
Telling you don't give up, there is someone better around the corner.
wishful thinking......
It means get over the one you lost out on and keep trying.
that there's more people out there for you if it doesn't work out with that one person
because every girl has a fish for you to bite.... haha
you'll find someone better.
they're more guys out there. (or girls)
gee, i don't know...let me think about your tough question for a while.
more people out there to love
to give you hope.
I am without a doubt scared bobbarless about relationships?
:|
just been mega hurt, now i dont see the point?
anyone else had this?
how did you overcome it?I am without a doubt scared bobbarless about relationships?
You live and you learn, going through a problem will help you prevent it in the future. Everyone is different and not everyone will break your heart, it will happen sometime or another where you break a heart, if you haven't already knowingly or not.I am without a doubt scared bobbarless about relationships?
I'm like that. I came out of a long term relationship absolutly petrified of being alone so I straight away looked for someone new, dated for a while, had a couple of flings, and now after being messed about by them aswell, I'm 100% single.
I dont even kiss guys on nights out anymore cos I cant be bothered with fobbing them off when they ask for my number or rather not answering them when I give them my number (I'm too polite to say not to their face!)
Right now I cant think of anything worse than being with someone. Worrying what they are doing, do you trust them, not being able to flirt if you meet someone you like, argueing, the lies and secrets.
I'm sure there are some geniunly nice guys out there, but I've not met any so far!
I recomend you focus on yourself and your goals for now
I also think time heals all wounds
I mean i dont think you will be able to give your all
Right away to anyone no matter how trustworthy they are
BUT some day you will let your guard a little more down and you will
fall in love again.
If you get burned bad by a stove
you think about it the next time you use it
But eventually the pain and the worry goes away
( your always going to be safer and will not repeat the same mistake of giving your heart so easily)
Yes, we've all been there hun. And it sucks more than anything at the time. My x dumped me on christmas eve after 3 years and said he was already seeing someone. That was about a year and a half ago. It still bothers me now, but I am definitely over it.
All you need is time, and to surround yourself with people who love you, like family and friends.
You may not see the point of dating again for quite a while. Which is fine and perfectly normal. Just give it some time. Good luck :)
sorry for that, but I think you should keep on fighting the tide. you know keep experiencing life intuitively, don't hold back. I understand your hurt, but push that aside and keep on living. I know someday you'll find that person.
I have been hurt recently too
thebest thing to do is
have a girls night with a bunch of your frineds
and chill out, watch movies
and pig out on junk food.
It is the best remedy to get over a guy !!
It'll take some time but don't worry a new guy will catch your eye ;]
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
still going through it myself!
Having to learn to trust my GUT INSTINCTS more when it comes to TRUST
Right now I trust NO ONE apart from some family members
I need to trust MYSELF NOT TO GET IT WRONG first!!!!!
hiya there is a great Scientoly book called self analysis by l ron hubbard it is really good for this give it a go
time just goes on and you feel better but i just try to be involved in alot moregloss
just been mega hurt, now i dont see the point?
anyone else had this?
how did you overcome it?I am without a doubt scared bobbarless about relationships?
You live and you learn, going through a problem will help you prevent it in the future. Everyone is different and not everyone will break your heart, it will happen sometime or another where you break a heart, if you haven't already knowingly or not.I am without a doubt scared bobbarless about relationships?
I'm like that. I came out of a long term relationship absolutly petrified of being alone so I straight away looked for someone new, dated for a while, had a couple of flings, and now after being messed about by them aswell, I'm 100% single.
I dont even kiss guys on nights out anymore cos I cant be bothered with fobbing them off when they ask for my number or rather not answering them when I give them my number (I'm too polite to say not to their face!)
Right now I cant think of anything worse than being with someone. Worrying what they are doing, do you trust them, not being able to flirt if you meet someone you like, argueing, the lies and secrets.
I'm sure there are some geniunly nice guys out there, but I've not met any so far!
I recomend you focus on yourself and your goals for now
I also think time heals all wounds
I mean i dont think you will be able to give your all
Right away to anyone no matter how trustworthy they are
BUT some day you will let your guard a little more down and you will
fall in love again.
If you get burned bad by a stove
you think about it the next time you use it
But eventually the pain and the worry goes away
( your always going to be safer and will not repeat the same mistake of giving your heart so easily)
Yes, we've all been there hun. And it sucks more than anything at the time. My x dumped me on christmas eve after 3 years and said he was already seeing someone. That was about a year and a half ago. It still bothers me now, but I am definitely over it.
All you need is time, and to surround yourself with people who love you, like family and friends.
You may not see the point of dating again for quite a while. Which is fine and perfectly normal. Just give it some time. Good luck :)
sorry for that, but I think you should keep on fighting the tide. you know keep experiencing life intuitively, don't hold back. I understand your hurt, but push that aside and keep on living. I know someday you'll find that person.
I have been hurt recently too
thebest thing to do is
have a girls night with a bunch of your frineds
and chill out, watch movies
and pig out on junk food.
It is the best remedy to get over a guy !!
It'll take some time but don't worry a new guy will catch your eye ;]
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
still going through it myself!
Having to learn to trust my GUT INSTINCTS more when it comes to TRUST
Right now I trust NO ONE apart from some family members
I need to trust MYSELF NOT TO GET IT WRONG first!!!!!
hiya there is a great Scientoly book called self analysis by l ron hubbard it is really good for this give it a go
time just goes on and you feel better but i just try to be involved in alot more
A question about online s3x in long-distance relationships?
women,if your guy is travelling away,but you can't travel for many reasons,so you chat every night.
but every ni8ght he's always turned on.ALWAYS.and needs online sex.
would you agree for this?
and is it okay?
everyady?
and is it normal for him to want it everyday?A question about online s3x in long-distance relationships?
He's your bf, satisfy his urges so he won't need to get satisfaction elsewhere.A question about online s3x in long-distance relationships?
why not phone sex? you can actually hold the phone with one hand and with the other hand you can....well we all know where im going with this
Sex and drugs are overrated, I didn't feel like reading that.
not singles and dating
yeah for sure. lol
but every ni8ght he's always turned on.ALWAYS.and needs online sex.
would you agree for this?
and is it okay?
everyady?
and is it normal for him to want it everyday?A question about online s3x in long-distance relationships?
He's your bf, satisfy his urges so he won't need to get satisfaction elsewhere.A question about online s3x in long-distance relationships?
why not phone sex? you can actually hold the phone with one hand and with the other hand you can....well we all know where im going with this
Sex and drugs are overrated, I didn't feel like reading that.
not singles and dating
yeah for sure. lol
What relationships are there between the General Relativity's and Thermodynamics' concepts of time ?
I don't think there is any ';special'; relationship to them. They both remark upon the nature of time but in different ways.
I think you are referring to fact that thermodynamics gives us an ';arrow of time'; from the result that entropy is always increasing with time. Thus it gives us a way to distinguish going ';forward'; from ';backwards';.
General Relativity created the space-time four vector, and treats time almost like a fourth dimension (though still very different than the other three).What relationships are there between the General Relativity's and Thermodynamics' concepts of time ?
In order to do work you have to invest in time. If you dont dont that ,no work gets done.So the faster you move according to Einstein dilation formula the less work gets done because time has slowed down as you move faster.
Einstein dilation is interesting = The faster you move the less work Boss(the observer ) sees you do.
So when the boss says'; mach schnell';(means hurry up) ,he is really telling you ';dont work so hard.';
Thermodynamics is related to work it says the more work you try to do the more energy you lose.
As you can deduct from thes thoughts you can see that in general relativity momentum is not conserved.
Energy expanded is a function of the power applied and the time of interaction that the energy is transfered.
Relativity relates to the Energy of structure but does not mention power transfer.What relationships are there between the General Relativity's and Thermodynamics' concepts of time ?
I think they both make the assumption that time has only one direction - forward. That is, you will not see a hundred pieces of porcelain rise off the floor and form into a teacup on the edge of a table.
I think you are referring to fact that thermodynamics gives us an ';arrow of time'; from the result that entropy is always increasing with time. Thus it gives us a way to distinguish going ';forward'; from ';backwards';.
General Relativity created the space-time four vector, and treats time almost like a fourth dimension (though still very different than the other three).What relationships are there between the General Relativity's and Thermodynamics' concepts of time ?
In order to do work you have to invest in time. If you dont dont that ,no work gets done.So the faster you move according to Einstein dilation formula the less work gets done because time has slowed down as you move faster.
Einstein dilation is interesting = The faster you move the less work Boss(the observer ) sees you do.
So when the boss says'; mach schnell';(means hurry up) ,he is really telling you ';dont work so hard.';
Thermodynamics is related to work it says the more work you try to do the more energy you lose.
As you can deduct from thes thoughts you can see that in general relativity momentum is not conserved.
Energy expanded is a function of the power applied and the time of interaction that the energy is transfered.
Relativity relates to the Energy of structure but does not mention power transfer.What relationships are there between the General Relativity's and Thermodynamics' concepts of time ?
I think they both make the assumption that time has only one direction - forward. That is, you will not see a hundred pieces of porcelain rise off the floor and form into a teacup on the edge of a table.
Do relationships last if your always arguing?
my boyfriend and i are constantly arguing over everything though i know we love each other its hard on our relationship with all the arguing...we keep trying but so far we have still had lots of arguments...do you think it will last?Do relationships last if your always arguing?
Sammie it will last,
You must like him alot,,,
Keep trying and hopefully the fights will stop,
Good luck and best wishes,
Cr. jimmyDo relationships last if your always arguing?
sounds doubtful, you can't really love each other that much if all you want to do is get at each others throats all the time, the way i see it, if you can't get the spark back into the relationship and get things to an easy, *loving* level, then it's pretty pointless. Find someone else who you get on enough with to not argue with all the time, it may seem like you love him now, but you'll regret it if you dont end it before its too late. It'll be better for the both of you.
no. it depends. are you happy arguing? if u are then yea auguring is great. but if your not happy then no. in a relationship you want to be happy. am i wrong? no i don't think it will last because there is tension and unless you take action it will only get worse. it affects everyone cause you might lash out at other people for your problems. that is what my parents do and it makes us kids miserable and my mom is never happy. maybe you need to talk to him and get help. if he agrees it is not working out then so be it and break up. both of u deserves to be happy and almost stress free *smile*
If you have to ask if its going to work chances are you already know the answer to your question. You seem unhappy and are looking for something, anything to give you hope. So do I personally think its going to last? No. Just based on past experiences. When arguing becomes a habit its hard to break. Best of luck
Love alone won't keep a relationship together.You have to be compatible and the 2 of you are not compatible.
Eventually you will both get sick and tired of arguing and the relationship will end.Sorry.
If you both really want it to work you'll get through it. But if the arguing is really bringing you down then sorry but I think you should be strong and maybe ending it is the right option.
what's the joy and the point of relationship if you always argue...i wouldn't want such thing.
[and whoever is giving thumbs down,b*tch cut it out]
Even if the relation lasts, it will have unpleasant essence somewhere, which is not good for any relationship.
its really going to last blv me.. people fight when they discuss n talk a lot n these r the ones who really go for off.. blv me on this///////////just dont let this love fade away ever
not if your ALWAYS arguing. Someone needs to bend before the love breaks.
Love is what binds the whole WORLD together in PEACE.
It willl last, just get some counselling
the arguing has to stop or it won't
Based on your questions...you need to get rid of this guy. You two are going nowhere.
yeah,it will.
i donno but due to this problm my relationship ended so best of luck to u two
Sammie it will last,
You must like him alot,,,
Keep trying and hopefully the fights will stop,
Good luck and best wishes,
Cr. jimmyDo relationships last if your always arguing?
sounds doubtful, you can't really love each other that much if all you want to do is get at each others throats all the time, the way i see it, if you can't get the spark back into the relationship and get things to an easy, *loving* level, then it's pretty pointless. Find someone else who you get on enough with to not argue with all the time, it may seem like you love him now, but you'll regret it if you dont end it before its too late. It'll be better for the both of you.
no. it depends. are you happy arguing? if u are then yea auguring is great. but if your not happy then no. in a relationship you want to be happy. am i wrong? no i don't think it will last because there is tension and unless you take action it will only get worse. it affects everyone cause you might lash out at other people for your problems. that is what my parents do and it makes us kids miserable and my mom is never happy. maybe you need to talk to him and get help. if he agrees it is not working out then so be it and break up. both of u deserves to be happy and almost stress free *smile*
If you have to ask if its going to work chances are you already know the answer to your question. You seem unhappy and are looking for something, anything to give you hope. So do I personally think its going to last? No. Just based on past experiences. When arguing becomes a habit its hard to break. Best of luck
Love alone won't keep a relationship together.You have to be compatible and the 2 of you are not compatible.
Eventually you will both get sick and tired of arguing and the relationship will end.Sorry.
If you both really want it to work you'll get through it. But if the arguing is really bringing you down then sorry but I think you should be strong and maybe ending it is the right option.
what's the joy and the point of relationship if you always argue...i wouldn't want such thing.
[and whoever is giving thumbs down,b*tch cut it out]
Even if the relation lasts, it will have unpleasant essence somewhere, which is not good for any relationship.
its really going to last blv me.. people fight when they discuss n talk a lot n these r the ones who really go for off.. blv me on this///////////just dont let this love fade away ever
not if your ALWAYS arguing. Someone needs to bend before the love breaks.
Love is what binds the whole WORLD together in PEACE.
It willl last, just get some counselling
the arguing has to stop or it won't
Based on your questions...you need to get rid of this guy. You two are going nowhere.
yeah,it will.
i donno but due to this problm my relationship ended so best of luck to u two
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