Why are relationships so freaking hard ?

why can being in a relationship be easy ? why is it so much work? why do men cheat ?Why are relationships so freaking hard ?
Relationships ARE easy. You just have to find the right one and don't try to MAKE him into what you want.





Why men cheat?





鈥?To Fulfill His Biology: You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. I have had this argument/discussion/conversation with dozens of men and women: Are men predestined to cheat? My answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it. Especially after a pitcher and two shots of Jack.


鈥?To Get the Attention: News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the sexual frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.


鈥?To Get Out: I know lots of guys who simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try (';I'm just not happy';), or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.


鈥?To Change Up His Play List: Think about what's on your iPod. You have your favorite songs you play over and over, but every once in a while, you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You don't need to hear it but once every month or so, but still, you appreciate the changeup. Relationships need to be like good iPods lists. You're comfortable with your routine and you like your routine, but it's always nice to change things up. What men really want in relationships (and what I suspect women also want) is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long-term commitment, as long as there are some surprises that make it feel like a new relationship every once in a while. In order to keep the relationship strong, you've got to change the songs every once in a while. That goes for in the bedroom and out.








Cheaters are like Smokers





Cheaters are like smokers, they never ';quit'; , they always have the urge, and they either just don't have one for a while or get better at hiding the habit.Why are relationships so freaking hard ?
You're in the wrong relationship by the sounds of it. When it's right, love doesn't hurt. When two people enter into a relationship, they both nurture the relationship, to keep it healthy, happy, %26amp; growing. If being in a relationship seems like hard work, then it's not for you. Not all men cheat. There's no good reason for those who do, but some will try to blame it all on the woman, to ease their conscience. Men cheat for what they believe is reason to. Nothing can be said by the cheater, that'll condone his dirty deeds. Life is way too short, to be wasted on a man who isn't ready %26amp; mature enough to be in a relationship.
the answer is the same as why women cheat not happy looking for something that they may be lacking in the relationship 80\20 rule people are always looking for that little something that they do not have in their relationship and toss away all the good they have. I have cheated a lot in my life but the current relationship I have been faithful to her and it is hard as hell she puts me through a lot of drama. I do love her and I hurt when she hurts and when she is happy I feel joy but It is a lot of work and that is what you will have to go through if you want a relationship to work if you see a future with that person then this is what you will do.
Because you have to work at it, especially if you're with a person who is very, very different from you. Women cheat too and I truly believe that for most it's because there's a lot lacking in their present relationship. And topher's right, not all men cheat just like not all women cheat.
Why can't being in a relationship be easy?


-Nothing comes easy in life.


Why is it so much work?


-Great things don't just appear overnight, unfortunately


Why do men cheat?


-Men cheat because there inconsiderate a**holes.
haha im 20 and dated 4 girls before (currently single) and have caught 3 in the act of cheating on me so lets not jump to conclusions...





relationships are how we want them to be .... it takes an effort after around 2 years when thatt initial attraction towards each other is gone





thats life
Because sharing your life with someone else is never easy.
well not all guys cheat, you are probably picking the wrong type of guy.
because they think with there f***in D***s . .thats why
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