People say relationships are work. How do you know it's more work than it's worth?

The list of good is lengthy, but...the bads have a lot of weight (to me). When is it harder than it should be?People say relationships are work. How do you know it's more work than it's worth?
when you are more miserable than happy!People say relationships are work. How do you know it's more work than it's worth?
This is a great question. Since you already have thought about the list of goods and bads, and say the bads have a lot of weight to you, you need to delve down and ask yourself what effect the bads will have on your vision of yourself and your life goals 5, 10, and 15 years down the line. Some bads are serious deal-killers - for example, does he treat you and your opinions disrespectfully? If you differ with him, does it ALWAYS mean an argument, where he then goes out in a snit or becomes dismissive and nasty? Does he manage his money poorly, so that you are always the one to pick up the financial slack? Do you feel more like his mommy, and less like his partner? Is he always hanging on your ankles and dragging you down, or does he help to make you feel better and to be a better person in everything you do?





And last but not least - can you talk about your goals with him and does he share you goals and listen to you seriously? Does he do what he says he will do, when you have such talks, or is it just like talking to a wall?





I'm guessing that if you are asking this question, your relationship will flunk this test. Every r'ship has its ups and downs, but these elements are key in maintaining a positive trajectory for the r'ship.
That is a very subjective question.





Is it work to do something for someone you love or is it a pleasure?





Working on a relationship is an ongoing process that will never end. Every relationship will have rough patches. Those patches require a bit more effort than when things are going well. Just like any job some days are harder than others. Is your job worth the effort you put into it.





When it comes to employees and jobs I have an old saying I like to use --- The day you are paid what you are worth on a job ---- you are no longer worth it. In other words a good employee always puts forth a little bit extra. In a good relationship you should both put forth more than the required minimum. It is one thing to get along together it is another to Truly enjoy every minute you are together.





If you are a selfish individual, a relationship may seem like way too much work. On the other hand if you are a very giving person, you may be also an enabler and letting the other half of your relationship be lazy.





If you think it is harder than it should be it is time to seek counseling, because a relationship shouldn't seem like a chore but a pleasure. Kind of like playing a sport, it takes effort but is fun.
The same way you know that all the work you put into your job (that you love), your wardrobe, car, home, etc. is worth it.





Because not only ';knowing'; it's worth it, but by obtaining the successful (and desired) outcome is what makes you satisfied, content and happy.





Be it a tricked out car, beautifully decorated house, or a wonderful relationship.
You know it's more work than it's worth when you picture yourself without them in your life and you feel total relief. Until then, work at it. Life is hard. Relationships are hard. Love can be painful.





Loneliness and regrets are more painful, though. Stick with it kid until you ';just know'; it's not for you.
When you feel like you are working by yourself then it is probably time to really evaluate the relationship. If you are both willing to put in the work together then go for it, but if it is always one sided then you have to really figure out where you stand.
actually make that list, sit down and list pros and cons





then decide which is the stronger side, the point where you are doing more harm than good for eachother is the point when it should end
if you have chidlren,you owe it to the children to MAKE it work.


nobody seems to care what they do to people anymore,but it is wrong to hurt chidren just because you dont want to be an adult
I think its harder than it should be if you guys are getting frustrated with each other every time you see each other. You guys need to be happy with one another at SOME POINT
when you have trouble paying the rent or whatever then its too hard !!